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Why Jezebels and Narcissits Spoil Every Holiday and How to Keep Your Peace

You may know one – or have known one. The Killjoy, the Jezebel or the Naracissit who consistantly ruins every holiday. It may be a birthday, a Thanksgiving, or even Christmas.  Every year they make a scene – to be seen. It’s almost like they are on steroids. All those criticizing, belittling, and blaming behaviors come out in stereo. Loud and proud as they cut down everyone and everything in their way. But why? Why do they insist on the drama every Holiday? And more importantly, what can you do to keep your peace?

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Why Jezebels and Narcissists Spoil Every Holiday and How to Keep Your Peace

  • Jezebels and Narcissits have a self control problem. They have none. So they create drama all around them so they feel important. It’s all about them. They want to be the star of the show. So if they cut you down, they think they shine.
    •  It’s a pretty dull sparkle if you ask me. Don’t react. Let them be stupid all by themselves.
  • Holidays bring crowds and they love to be the star of the show. Once again, you don’t matter to them. They have no real heart. It is cold and closed. More people mean a bigger audience for them to play their leading role.
    • They are a legend in their own minds.  Too bad it’s the size of a pea, lol! They think they are God and everyone should bow down and worship them. Don’t do it. Don’t put them on a pedestel, or cater to their whims. There is no throne for that type of behavior. It’s abusive.
  • Jezebels and Narcissists are insecure –  only they don’t want anyone to know about it. They often overreact to the dumbest things. They will blow a gasket at the drop of a hat, over anything. They are maniupulaters and blamers. In their mind anything that goes wrong is never their fault. They think they walk on water.
    • They will blame whoever is in their way. This way they feed their own ego. You can almost see their head blow up with their own hot air. When the blaming starts, take a deep breath and don’t belive them. Whatever comes out of their mouth is not true. They lie to cover things up all the time. Half of the time they do not even remember all the lies they tell.
  • Jezebesl and Narcissists  love to stir up drama. Have you ever noticed how they will poke and prod and gossip just to get someone upset? It makes them feel in control. They love to get other people angry.  I really think anger is fuel to them. They thrive on it.
    • Don’t play. Don’t react. Let their words fall to the ground.  Just because they said something doesn’t mean it is true. Sometimes this makes them even angrier, be prepared. It’s healthy to walk away, take a break, leave the room. You don’t have to watch them crash and burn.

Keep you peace this Holiday. If they want to be a jerk, let them. We have no contorl over other people’s bad behavior. It is not our fault they are jerks, that is their choice. What we can control is our reaction to it.

“Don’t feed the Jezebel or the Narcissist – they will only get uglier.”

Remember to put on your full armor and stand strong. Let it go, God will deal with them just like He did with Jezebel. Keep your peace. Don’t play. Pray, ask God to intercede. He will, and watch the Jezebels fall!

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Be Gentle with Yourself this Holiday Season

Holidays can be stressful. So much to do, so little time. Why do we do this every year? We are the most over stressed and over worked people in time. Then add a cell phone. Instant access – to everything and everyone – all the time. No wonder we are at our wits end.

Then, just for fun, let’s  throw in a family party. Why not? Hey what should we make? Do I need to bake cookies? Truthfully the last few times I tried to bake it was an epic fail. I tried a new banana bread recipe that had oil in it and it just sucked. Then I thought I would “cheat” and buy cookie dough. Hey – who can screw up chocolate chip cookies? Can I tell you they were awful!

Welcome to reality Miss D – you are not a Baker. My kids are awesome Bakers but truthfully I am not. Today I am OK with that. I’m NOT going to bake. I can buy cookies anyway. 

Be gentle with yourself this Holiday Season. 

You don’t have to do it all. 

Delagate. 

Let it go, it’s OK to let go of unrealistic expectations for yourself! 

I gave up trying to be the “perfect little hostess”. It wasn’t real anyway. This Christmas I am going to enjoy my family and our special moments together – that is what matters the most anyway. God bless you my friends. Love you all, Diana

casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you. – 1 Peter 5:7 

 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;  and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. – Philippians 4:6-7 

When You Can’t Be Together at the Holidays

Holidays are hard sometimes. Especially when for whatever reason you can’t be together. Maybe it’s because of an illness, or distance, or death, or service. No matter what the reason it makes your heart hurt. That’s where I am today. Don’t get me wrong – I am grateful for the get togethers. Yet I miss _____. Funny how you can feel two things at one time. 

Yet time goes on. The moon still sets and the sun still rises. The breeze still blows as I sit here feeling like I’m frozen in time. And here, in this moment, is when I hear,

“I will come to you.”

And again, 

“I will come – TO YOU.”

Right here, right now, in the middle of this loneliness – this is the place where Jesus will come – to me.  All of a sudden He is the pursuer in this crazy love relationship. He is on the offense making the ‘first move’ to get closer.  He will come when His Beloved is hurting. He hears our heart cries. I am humbled- and grateful.

I will not leave you orphans; I will come to you. – John 14:18


And He will come to you today too. In the middle of your loneliness – He will come to you. 

In the middle of that sorrow – He will come to you.

In the middle of that sickness – He will come to you.

In the middle of that grief – He will come to you.

In the middle of _______ – He will come to you.

  

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Depression and the Holidays

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Holidays may bring upon an old “friend”.  Here is a poem I wrote about it, and a song my friend Nashville Joe wrote.  He lives in Florida!

HOLIDAY BLUES

©2013 Diana Rasmussen

Holiday blues

poisonous thoughts

paralyzing fears

unrealistic expectations

wrapped with bows

stockings filled

with sadness

hanging on the

chimney with care

red and green

lights blinking

feelings on and off

candy cane dreams

garland and bows

tinsel trappings

frozen in time

Click on Nashville Joe to hear his great Christmas Song CHRISTMAS BLUES!

More about Nashville Joe:

JOE HENDRICKSON–AKA–NASHVILLEJOE–POET/SONGWRITER/sometimes a PERFORMER/STORYTELLER ETC…-I spent so much time in Nashville ,Tennessee that everyone started calling me Nashvillejoe here where I live in Florida–even my mother calls me Nashvillejoe so I use it as my pen name–my two best friends–JIM and JON HAGER,starred on the hit TV show HEE HAW for 19 years-they both have passed on to that big HEE HAW show in the sky–I sure miss them old boys.THANK YOU for taking an interest in my 16.songs and 1.poem–I AM 23 YEARS SOBER NOW! & APPRECIATE BEING ALIVE–EASY DOES IT–CHEERS!–JOE.

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The Gift of His Presence

The Gift of His Presence

Copyright 2013 Diana Rasmussen

From: http://ephesianswife.blogspot.com
From: http://ephesianswife.blogspot.com

My prayer for you this Christmas
Is to receive what Christ has done
A baby born in a manger
Has come to save everyone

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Let your sorrow be turned to joy
Let your ashes be turned to beauty
When Christ is born inside your heart
Even the Angels in Heaven sing

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Open your heart to receive Him
Let the Love of God rush in
Unwrap the Gift of His Presence
Receive comfort, joy, and peace

Behold, the virgin shall become pregnant and give birth to a Son, and they shall call His name Emmanuel—which, when translated, means, God with us. (Matthew 1:23 AMP)

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