Tag: Violence and Abuse

No More – I refuse!

NO MORE

©2013 Diana Rasmussen

 

Your love is hating

All controlling

suffocating

asphyxiating

My heart is aching

tired of waiting

You’re smothering

It’s strangulating

 

No more, No More

I refuse

No more, No more

I refuse

 

You throw words like swords

piercing my world

screaming the chords

Your blind rage affords

Done crying the blues

no more excuses

You can’t confuse

I have paid my dues

 

No more, No More

I refuse

I can choose

no more abuse

From: http://www.thehotline.org
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Free Indeed

Freedom – comes with a price.  It’s not really free.  It costs our military their lives sometimes, it cost Jesus his life.  And my freedom, cost me a marriage 9or two).  There were many posts I was not sure if I should write.  It may have been easier to keep my mouth shut.  Leave the secrets behind closed doors.  But that would not have helped me heal, nor been of any use to anyone else going through the same situation.  So, we write to heal, to release the pain, and be free!

Here are a few of my posts that share what it was like. And, as those of you who know me, I sing about it too (under Diana’s Music tab).  My lyrics tell my story as only a song can.

WHY DOESN’T SHE JUST LEAVE

I can’t tell you how many times people have said this to me when I was trying to get out of an abusive marriage.

DO YOU HEAR THE CHILDREN CRYING

This one was especially hard – I released the artwork that my children had drawn with the counselor while we were at the Domestic Violence Shelter for the last time.  It was really ‘the straw that broke the camels back’ for me – I never went back after seeing these pictures.

RESCUED AND CHANGED

This one ‘spills the beans’, it really made me look at who I used to be. And I confessed to many things I used to do.  Kind of hard to just put it out there – but it’s the truth.

From: http://www.dailylifeverse.com

This is my response for:

Daily Prompt: Release Me

Tell us about the blog post you were most nervous to publish — and what it was like to set it free.  

Photographers, artists, poets: show us FREE.

Living in Fear

Daily Prompt: Fright Night

Do you like being scared by books, films, and surprises? Describe the sensation of being scared, and why you love it — or don’t.
I do not like being afraid.  I am not a ‘ride’ girl, skip the roller coasters and stuff.  And skip the horror flicks.  I guess it comes from all the times I was terrified in my own home behind closed doors.  That’s what happens when you live in Domestic Violence.  There is a reason people call one person the “abuser” and the other the “victim”.  It is sort of like being a POW – the mind control that goes on and the fearing for your life and your children’s lives too. Here is a poem that I wrote and turned into a song.  It talks about the fear, and what it feels like to live there.

© 2013 Diana Rasmussen

An Album for Domestic Violence Awareness

 

She looks in the mirror, seems vaguely familiar

like steam on the glass, shame covers her past

the fog slithers down, as evil surrounds

His worst fantasy, her reality

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he pulls the strings, does unspeakable things

a sadistic entrance, for his acceptance

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Smothered by control, a tormented soul

trapped in his castle

Her tears rolling mist, proof she  exists

in snow white darkness

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Clouds of confusion, rolled into illusion

He veils perversion, forcing her coercion

her body he takes, while she flies away

unbelieveable, she’s invisible

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love is the shadow, that darkens her window

she’s crying for help, to escape her hell

Smothered by control, a tormented soul

trapped in his castle

Her tears rolling mist, proof she  exists

in snow white darkness

*

she hides in the fog, drinks hair of the dog

hates her behavior, craves one to save her

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Smothered by control, a tormented soul

trapped in his castle

Her tears rolling mist, proof she  exists

in snow white darkness

Why Doesn’t She Just Leave?

It has been brought up again and again, “Why doesn’t she just leave him?”  I wish there was an easy answer.  But it is different for each person.  That is why it is IMPERATIVE, in my opinion, that a victim seek professional help.  The Police get involved for a reason. There are counselors in place at every domestic violence shelter that I have ever been to.  There are professional counselors that will help lead a person out of bondage.  Even our regular MD Doctors ask us every visit, ” Do you feel safe at home?”  There are Pastors that can help someone get the help they need. I had to tell someone, anyone, what was going on. BREAKING THE SILENCE was  step one for me to get out alive.  I didn’t have to dump everything, I just had to say something…

Ok, you asked. Here are the statistics along with my source.

We don’t leave right away because we fear for our lives.
We have been told again and again that if we do we will be killed,
and so will our children…and many die trying.
Terrorism – in your own house, that’s what it’s like….
and here is a .pdf with

50 OBSTACLES TO LEAVING a.k.a. WHY ABUSE VICTIMS STAY

From: joannewellington.wordpress.com

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE STATISTICS

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One out of every three women will be abused at some point in her life.
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Battering is the single major cause of injury to women, exceeding rapes, muggings and auto accidents combined.
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A woman is more likely to be killed by a male partner (or former partner) than any other person.
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About 4,000 women die each year due to domestic violence.
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 Of the total domestic violence homicides, about 75% of the victims were killed as they attempted to leave the relationship or after the relationship had ended.
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Seventy-three percent of male abusers were abused as children.
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Thirty percent of Americans say they know a woman who has been physically abused by her husband in the past year.
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Women of all races are equally vulnerable to violence by an intimate partner.
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On average, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or partners in this country every day.
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Intimate partner violence a crime that largely affects women. In 1999, women accounted for 85% of the victims of intimate partner violence.
*On average, a woman will leave an abusive relationship seven times before she leaves for good.
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Approximately 75% of women who are killed by their batterers are murdered when they attempt to leave or after they have left an abusive relationship.

Yep, IT’S LIKE TERRORISM.  so why do people blame the victim?

What About The Children?

Daily Prompt: Blogger With a Cause

If your day to day responsibilities were taken care of and you could throw yourself completely behind a cause, what would it be?

Photographers, artists, poets: show us HELP

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS

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Do You Hear the Children Crying?

© 2013 Diana Rasmussen

Do you hear the children crying
As they scream up and down the halls?
They know daddy hits their mommy
and they watch her as she falls
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They run to her side daily
till Daddy comes in the room
Then it’s time to run and hide
the next one’s coming soon
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They say, “God please help my mommy
she needs you Lord today
cuz Daddy’s mad and I’m so sad
he says ‘she’s gonna pay’
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Why God don’t you kill him?
just stop him in his tracks?
Protect us Lord, we need you now
before he starts to smack”
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Finally Mommy dials 9-1-1
she made it to the phone
They take Daddy off to jail
and tell us now to run.

THE WALKING WOUNDED: The Path from Brokenness to Wholeness

Congrats to Secret Angel! I would recommend this book to anyone who has been abused or lived in domestic violence. Her book has helped me to heal, and go from brokenness to wholeness!

Rescued and Changed

Daily Prompt: Four Stars

Write a review of your life — or the life of someone close to you — as if it were a movie or a book.

Photographers, artists, poets: show us LIFE

She used to be a victim – of rape and domestic violence.
She used to sit in a corner of the bathroom – and rock uncontrollably for hours.
She used to go on trips to the psych ward for suicide attempts after ‘playing’ with razors and drugs.
She used to hide from her abuser behind a locked bathroom door in an old run, down mobile home.
She used to be addicted to painkillers and script drugs.
She used to be depressed and not get out of bed for 6 months.
She used to hook up with men who would abuse her – mentally, physically, sexually and emotionally.
Then – She met Jesus, He came into her darkness and carried her out –

and things changed.

JESUS THE ANOINTED ONE

© 2013 Diana Rasmussen

V1
Father to the fatherless, Protector of the weak.
Husband to the forsaken, Defender of the meek.

Provision for the widow, Freedom for the slave.
Justice for the oppressed, Deliverance for distressed.
CHORUS 1
Jesus, the Anointed One,
He’s Jesus, the Anointed One.

V2
He’s Shepherd to the lost one, Healing to the sick.
He’s grace, mercy, and righteousness, All justice and goodness.

He’s comfort for the broken heart, Counselor for the accused.
Prince of Peace in everything, the King above Kings.

Chorus 1
He’s Jesus, the Anointed One.
God’s in our midst

Chorus 2
Jesus the Annointed One,
Refuge and Fortress,
Jesus the Anointed One
Our peace and rest.

Instrumental

Jesus the Anointed One, God’s in our midst
Jesus the Anointed one, God’s in our midst