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Prayers and Promises – a poem from domestic violence

I wrote this poem to share what it feels like to go to church on a Sunday morning when you are living in domestic violence. Oftentimes the abuser likes to play up how spiritual he is so he can use God’s word to justify what he does. The abuser will take the Word and twist it to batter his wife with. Seriously. Many times Pastors just give the Abuser more ammunition when they cram messages on the husband’s authority down our throats. The Abuser loves that. Now he gives himself permission to do whatever he wants to his wife, and uses God and the Pastor’s word as justification. He’s the King right? And we are supposed to submit and obey right girls? Yeah, that was fun. Thanks so much. So glad I could come.

As a victim, we know how to smile and tell everyone everything is “fine”. But do you see it in our eyes? We are screaming on the inside for someone to see. For someone to take us aside and listen to what is really going on. But “he” knows and “he” won’t let us talk to anyone without standing right beside us. No talking, no telling – that’s the rule. Or it gets worse when we get home.

 

Prayers and Promises

©2014 Diana Rasmussen

I come to you today
I’m sitting in this pew
Looking for answers
And a life made new

Do I tell you what happens
When I make it home?
I’m a prisoner of war
Behind his locked door

Can you give me a prayer?
Can you give me a promise?
Something to hold onto
in the middle of chaos

You see Mr Jekyll
All smiles and lies but
He twists what you say
To get his own way

Starting tonight I know
The accusations start
When I run and hide
Because he’s Mr. Hyde

Can you give me a prayer?
Can you give me a promise?
Something to hold onto
in the middle of chaos

Renew my mind
Restore my hope
Show me your grace
Rebuild this broken place

Prayers and promises
Of what will someday be
Lord, help me to see
Things can change someday

Profile of an Abuser/Batterer

1. Jealousy (questioning her constantly about whereabouts, and jealous of time she spends away from him).

2. Controlling behavior (I’ve had clients who’s victim couldn’t get a job, leave the house or bathe without his permission)

3. Isolation (Makes partner move away from family and friends so that she depends on him solely for support.)

4. Forces her to have sex against her will (I’ve had several clients who forced their partners to have sex with their friends and forces sex when she is asleep.)

5. Holds very rigid gender roles (Believes that her job is just to cater to him, he is the “king of the castle.”)

(Source: Psychology Today: Behind the Veil)

“All human beings, as we meet them, are commingled out of good and evil: and Edward Hyde, alone, in the ranks of mankind, was pure evil.” 
― Robert Louis StevensonThe Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde

 

 

I’m Afraid for You

I’M AFRAID FOR YOU

©2013 Diana Rasmussen

She lived in the trailer right across the street
not much of a neighbor she kept to herself
When the sun went down the fights would start
noises travel in a trailer park
I went over one day with cookies in hand
saw the fear in her eyes said

I’m afraid for you
I heard what he called you last night
what he’s doing just isn’t right
My door’s always open
anytime day or night
I’m afraid for you

That night he came home
smelled something amiss
he started screaming and yelling
I heard punching fists

Afraid for my friend
I called 911
it was time for
this to be done

I’m afraid for you
I heard what he called you last night
what he’s doing just isn’t right
My door’s always open
anytime day or night
I’m afraid for you

She stood in the driveway
blood on her white gown
cops took him away
when I said

I’m afraid for you
I heard what he called you last night
what he’s doing just isn’t right
My door’s always open
anytime day or night
I’m afraid for you

Picture from: saludify.com

Rescued and Changed

Daily Prompt: Four Stars

Write a review of your life — or the life of someone close to you — as if it were a movie or a book.

Photographers, artists, poets: show us LIFE

She used to be a victim – of rape and domestic violence.
She used to sit in a corner of the bathroom – and rock uncontrollably for hours.
She used to go on trips to the psych ward for suicide attempts after ‘playing’ with razors and drugs.
She used to hide from her abuser behind a locked bathroom door in an old run, down mobile home.
She used to be addicted to painkillers and script drugs.
She used to be depressed and not get out of bed for 6 months.
She used to hook up with men who would abuse her – mentally, physically, sexually and emotionally.
Then – She met Jesus, He came into her darkness and carried her out –

and things changed.

JESUS THE ANOINTED ONE

© 2013 Diana Rasmussen

V1
Father to the fatherless, Protector of the weak.
Husband to the forsaken, Defender of the meek.

Provision for the widow, Freedom for the slave.
Justice for the oppressed, Deliverance for distressed.
CHORUS 1
Jesus, the Anointed One,
He’s Jesus, the Anointed One.

V2
He’s Shepherd to the lost one, Healing to the sick.
He’s grace, mercy, and righteousness, All justice and goodness.

He’s comfort for the broken heart, Counselor for the accused.
Prince of Peace in everything, the King above Kings.

Chorus 1
He’s Jesus, the Anointed One.
God’s in our midst

Chorus 2
Jesus the Annointed One,
Refuge and Fortress,
Jesus the Anointed One
Our peace and rest.

Instrumental

Jesus the Anointed One, God’s in our midst
Jesus the Anointed one, God’s in our midst