This blog is a letter to my children. I have been married to 2 Narcissists in my life. The Church calls them Jezebel Spirits. Here is my life lesson. In my opinion a Narcissist does not know what love is. It is always all about them. We are not people – we are possessions. And in his eyes, we are here to bow down and worship him. (sorry to be so blunt, but it’s true.)
You are old enough where we can have this conversation. I am so tired of the way he breaks your heart time and time again. Your tears break my heart. Every empty promise that brings you pain gives me pain too.
Can I share something with you? It’s not you. It’s not about anything you did or didn’t do. Sweetie, your father is a Narcissist.
According to Mythology:
In Greek mythology, Narcissus (/nɑrˈsɪsəs/; Greek: Νάρκισσος, Narkissos) was a hunter from the territory of Thespiae in Boeotia who was renowned for his beauty. He was the son of a river god named Cephissus and a nymph named Liriope.
I am here to let you know that I love you. And I support you. I give you freedom to make your own choices and learn from your mistakes. I will be here to pick up the pieces when he degrades you and belittles you. I know what it feels like because he did it to me first.
I love you, and I will shelter you under the shadow of my wings just like God does for all of us. Put up the mirror around your heart and let his harsh words bounce off you as they are not true. You are beautiful. You matter. You are smart. And I love you,
Mom
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It’s so sad.!
Yeah, not a good thing. Thanks for stopping by!
Everything I read in this article is extremely true. My father is this same personality as well.
Prayers to you. It’s not easy but God is a way better Daddy anyway. He has more than made up for it!
Excellent post. It’s so sad that our children have to continue to deal with the narcissism that we escaped. I continue to pray that they will have the strength to walk away too. God bless you, my sister!
Hey. I grew up with a wicked dad as well. You know what, I cried when I read this letter. 🙂 I felt that it’s what my heart wants to also hear even as an adult. Thanks for sharing. I know this is also what God would tell me.
God bless you and restore you my friend – a seven fold blessing!
Great post to your children. I wished my Mom had sat us down and explained this to us ~ would have saved me many tears. ♥
Thank you beautiful. I had to learn it the hard way too. May all the tears you planted in sorrow be returned to you 100 fold in joy!
May they come back to you as well! ♥