Self Sabotage and Fear of Failure

What is one way to make sure you never succeed? One way to be sure you will never be happy? One way to ensure that you will never have enough? Do you have a fear of failing? Do you have a fear of succeeding?


Do you feel you have to be perfect?

Do you beat yourself up if you ever make a mistake?

Do you call yourself names?

You may be your own worst enemy.  YOU may be the one bringing yourself down the wrong path. And by refusing to receive the good things God has in store for you, you may undermine your own success.  Holding onto unrealistic expectations of yourself will bring:

  1. Self sabotage
  2. Self punishing
  3. Shame
  4. Guilt
  5. Fear of failure
  6. Fear of success
  7. Feelings of being ‘stuck’

And from Psychology Today

What is Self-Sabotage?

Behavior is said to be self-sabotaging when it creates problems and interferes with long-standing goals. The most common self-sabotaging behaviors are procrastination, self-medication with drugs or alcohol, comfort eating in the face of weight concerns, and self-injury such as cutting. These acts may seem helpful in the moment, but ultimately undermine us, especially when we engage in them repeatedly.

So what do we do if we admit that this is a problem? Make a new choice – today.  Forgive yourself for unrealistic expectations.  We ALL make mistakes. And like Rafiki said in the Lion King


“But as it is written:

“Eye has not seen, nor ear heard,
Nor have entered into the heart of man
The things which God has prepared for those who love Him.”(1 Corinthians 2:9 NKJV)

“I would have lost heart, unless I had believed
That I would see the goodness of the Lord
In the land of the living.” (Psalm 27:13 NKJV)



Dear Lord,

We confess, at times we have been the ones refusing to receive good things from your hand.  Thank you Holy Spirit for bringing this out of the darkness and into the light.  Today is a new day.  We cast off our old self and put on our new self – the one that YOU have called good, chosen, loved, and redeemed.  We choose to receive all the good things that You have promised us. We forgive ourselves today, in Jesus Name.


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Diana Rasmussen is a Faith Builder, Worship Leader, Veteran's wife, and a Certified Peer Specialist. At her blog Prayers and Promises she shares from her heart on how to find hope in this crazy world!

12 thoughts on “Self Sabotage and Fear of Failure

    1. You are worth more than gold – you are chosen, loved, beloved and His. Don’t listen to those voices – they lie! I have been there too.

      I just posted some positive affirmations of who God says you are, and who I say you are. It helps me when I read them out loud – then those negative thoughts and voices shut up!

  1. Thanks for this post. It helped me realize that I’m setting myself up for self-sabotage (again). Augh! 😉


  2. Thanks for the pep talk – yes we are always so much harder on ourselves.

  3. Diana, this is such wise advice and information God Bless you for sharing it with us. ~ Blessings ~

  4. It’s like you are talking directly to me. I have feared success for most of my life.
    I was coming up with ways to procrastinate getting my vocals ready today & finishing some lyric issues, when I opened your post.
    Thank you,

    1. I’m going to pray Psalm 27 and 1 Cor. 29 this morning.

    2. Thank you too t,
      I have been afraid of success for a long time. I would get a really good job, and stay until I received all the awards I could get and then quit. I remember I even worked for Dale Carnegie selling classes to business people on “How to Succeed”, and I still quit! Kind of funny now. 😉 Oh well, God isn’t finished with me yet – or you either! Love you, and have fun singing. I’ll get on that new song today too.

      1. Thanks, Ms. D. I like working with you. You push me, and I need that!


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