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Self Sabotage and Fear of Failure

What is one way to make sure you never succeed? One way to be sure you will never be happy? One way to ensure that you will never have enough? Do you have a fear of failing? Do you have a fear of succeeding?


Do you feel you have to be perfect?

Do you beat yourself up if you ever make a mistake?

Do you call yourself names?

You may be your own worst enemy.  YOU may be the one bringing yourself down the wrong path. And by refusing to receive the good things God has in store for you, you may undermine your own success.  Holding onto unrealistic expectations of yourself will bring:

  1. Self sabotage
  2. Self punishing
  3. Shame
  4. Guilt
  5. Fear of failure
  6. Fear of success
  7. Feelings of being ‘stuck’

And from Psychology Today

What is Self-Sabotage?

Behavior is said to be self-sabotaging when it creates problems and interferes with long-standing goals. The most common self-sabotaging behaviors are procrastination, self-medication with drugs or alcohol, comfort eating in the face of weight concerns, and self-injury such as cutting. These acts may seem helpful in the moment, but ultimately undermine us, especially when we engage in them repeatedly.

So what do we do if we admit that this is a problem? Make a new choice – today.  Forgive yourself for unrealistic expectations.  We ALL make mistakes. And like Rafiki said in the Lion King


“But as it is written:

“Eye has not seen, nor ear heard,
Nor have entered into the heart of man
The things which God has prepared for those who love Him.”(1 Corinthians 2:9 NKJV)

“I would have lost heart, unless I had believed
That I would see the goodness of the Lord
In the land of the living.” (Psalm 27:13 NKJV)



Dear Lord,

We confess, at times we have been the ones refusing to receive good things from your hand.  Thank you Holy Spirit for bringing this out of the darkness and into the light.  Today is a new day.  We cast off our old self and put on our new self – the one that YOU have called good, chosen, loved, and redeemed.  We choose to receive all the good things that You have promised us. We forgive ourselves today, in Jesus Name.

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