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Stop Shaming Me – It’s Not Helping

Yes, we are all well meaning Christians. But sometimes, in an effort to ‘help’ we make things worse for our brothers and sisters who are struggling. Let’s face it, we all have stuff. Every single one of us, even the Pastors, even the Worship Team.

This past week I have been going off some medication in an effort to get rid of a constant ringing in my ears. So I know I am more sensitive in all areas. The medicine was to help with anxiety and depression. So yeah, kinda a mess at the moment.  So, here is my rant…

I will speak for myself here as to not share any names.

I get frustrated when others use me (or others) as an example in public. It might be a ‘friend” who just can’t stop the gossiping after I share something in confidence with them. They thought others should know so they could pray for them. Yeah right – they just wanted to gossip. It might be a Pastor who shares a person struggle from the Pulpit  without asking them for permission and now everyone knows.  It might be the random post from FB or Twitter or whatever to bring attention to a another person’s struggles, because they think they are trying to help. Can I tell you  – stuff like this is NOT helping!

I  have shared private information with people in the past, and they chose to make it public by naming me as “that girl with depression.” Yeah, thanks. Like I really wanted an announcement so now everyone can look at me and give me that label. Thanks. You just heaped a pile of more shame on something I am trying to get deliverance from.

I have had Pastors label me as the ‘divorced girl’ when they are teaching classes on how to have a good marriage. Thanks. Failed again I guess. Yeah, I’m the one coming to church, he is the one who cheated, and now I am the ‘divorced girl.’ Great.  Do you think I asked for this? Do you really think I wanted that label? Thanks again for naming me from the Pulpit so now everyone can call me that. I got up and walked out of that class, and out of that church.

I battle with smoking. I have quit 3 times in my life. I have tried Chantix – made me even more crazy. Tried the patch, tried the gum, tried the lozenges. Do you really think I want to keep doing this? When you see me smoking and make a public post about it – do you think that helps me? Your judgement just made me feel even more unworthy to be here.  Now I am even more shamed. Thanks alot. Like I really need more on my plate. Sorry I don’t live up to your expectations of what a ‘perfect Christitan’ looks like. I never said I was perfect. I come to Church to get free of alot of things. I am here to get better. I don’t need your judgement. Stop shaming me – it’s not helping.

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Maybe instead of making me (or others) your scapegoat you could stop making my life your podium to condemn me. In the Old Testament they used to take the scapegoats out of the camp and kill them. Guess what – you just tried, and I’m still here.

Yes, I’m riled up today. I get upset when people try to be my (or others) Holy Spirit. It’s not their job. I am seeking God. I am praying, I am reading my Bible, I have fasted. Seriously, if you are that concerned about me, maybe praying for me would help more than your condemnation of me.

Enough already. Life is hard enough without getting beat up at a place where I come to get healed. Lord, help us all.

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10 Quotes About How Grace Finds Us

Grace. Sometimes I think I try to hard. It’s like I have to go looking for it, like a buried treasure or something. But, from what I read, it’s not like that. Grace comes searching me out, especially when I need it most.

 

10 WAYS GRACE COMES TO FIND USGrace 2

 

“As long as a believer is worrying about whether or not they are truly saved, they will never grow up in spiritual maturity. It basically guarantees that a Christian will remain stuck in spiritual infancy. And worse, it paints a picture of God that is not only untrue but also unbiblical. It cheapens the gift of salvation – the gift of grace – and make God look like a finicky human.”
― Will Davis Jr., 10 Things Jesus Never Said: And Why You Should Stop Believing Them

 

“His grace is cheapened when you think that He has only forgiven you of your sins up to the time you got saved, and after that point, you have to depend on your confession of sins to be forgiven. God’s forgiveness is not given in installments.”
― Joseph Prince, Unmerited Favor: Depending on Jesus for every success in your life

 

“It’s not the law of religion nor the principles of morality that define our highways and pathways to God; only by the Grace of God are we led and drawn, to God. It is His grace that conquers a multitude of flaws and in that grace, there is only favor. Favor is not achieved; favor is received.”
― C. JoyBell C.

 

“Maybe if we focused on being light & less on the dark, we might actually see things change.”
― Michael M. Rose

 

“Under the law, even the best failed. Under grace, even the worst can be saved!”
― Joseph Prince, Unmerited Favor: Depending on Jesus for every success in your life

 

“God reminds us again and again that things between He and us are forever fixed. They are the rendezvous points where God declares to us concretely that the debt has been paid, the ledger put away, and that everything we need, in Christ we already possess. This re-convincing produces humility, because we realize that our needs are fulfilled. We don’t have to worry about ourselves anymore. This in turn frees us to stop looking out for what we think we need and liberates us to love our neighbor by looking out for what they need.”
― Tullian Tchividjian

“Grace isn’t just forgiveness, it is forgiveness fueled by surrender.”

― Amy E. Spiegel, Letting Go of Perfect: Women, Expectations, and Authenticity

 

“Jesus Himself has already paid the price for your sins, so stop condemning yourself! Today, when you look into the mirror, what do you see? Do you see yourself trapped in all your failings, mistakes, and sins? Or do you see what God sees? My dear friend, when God sees you today, He sees Jesus. Use your eyes of faith and believe that as Jesus is, so are you. In God’s eyes, you are righteous, you are favored, you are blessed, and you are healed. You are freed from all sin, all pangs of guilt, all forms of condemnation, and every bondage of addiction!”
― Joseph Prince, The Power of Right Believing: 7 Keys to Freedom from Fear, Guilt, and Addiction

 

“Where God’s grace takes you, grace will increase your capability and your capacity. Grace will empower you.”
― Edmond Sanganyado, The Good Shepherd: Grace sets back your setbacks

 

“Beloved, pursue Jesus and you will experience wisdom in every area of your life. You cannot try to earn, deserve or study to acquire God’s wisdom. It comes by His unmerited favor. His wisdom will give you good success in your career. It will cause you to succeed as a student, parent or spouse.”
― Joseph Prince, 100 Days of Favor: Daily Readings From Unmerited Favor

 

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Don’t Scream at Me

Don’t Scream at Me

Copyright 2013 Diana Rasmussen
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Don’t scream at me
I’m not a child
Or naughty dog
Who messed the floor
Raising your voice
To the loudest
high frequency
Makes me tune out
put up my walls
If you want to
reach me, change me
It  will not be
with angry words
Or with finger
pointing condemnation
of everything
I have done wrong
Why do you focus
on all my faults
Telling me I don’t
measure up, I
knew this anyway
That’s why I came
to this holy place
I know my wrongs
I want to be
Forgiven, and set free
Must you point out
All my failures
And beat me with
a  giant stick?
I don’t think
that is love
By any means
or any ways
All have sinned
And fallen short
That’s why Jesus came
and died at Calvary
The truth be told
the only way to
touch my heart is
by showing me
His grace and love
I guess the thing
that scares me the
most, I have to
ask,  “Is that how
God talks to you?”