Predatory People and Toxic Relationships

My rant to a harassing person from my past that will not respect my NO:

Not everyone is our friend. There are those people who are alongside the Enemy and just wish to kill, steal, and destroy. There is good, and there is evil. Learning to discern the difference between the two has been a journey for me. Evil people don’t wear horns and carry pitchforks. Sometimes they dress and act just like you and pretend to be a friend. So you try to help. Invite them in. And wonder why you got bit from the wolf 6 months later! There are Predatory People out there.

 The Bible teaches us that you will know a tree by its fruit. And some trees are bad. No amount of tlc will change it. Learning that I am not the Savior was a hard lesson for me. I kept getting myself into toxic relationships with Drama Kings and Queens until I learned to say NO. 

No, You don’t get to pretend to be my friend and stab me in the back at the same time. 

No, I will not allow you to treat me disrespectfully time after time and pretend it never happened. 

No, don’t expect me to believe a word that you say when all I hear are lies. 

No, you are not my friend and I do not have to let you back into my life. 

For the dog that keeps knocking on my door and trying to bully their way back in – NO. 

I forgave you, God commands me to do that. That doesn’t mean you get to come over and have lunch like nothing happened. God also gives us wisdom. 

Forgiveness does not mean that I accept what you did to me and my family. IT WAS WRONG. And you treated many others in your life the same way. I can’t believe we all believed the same lies. Wouldn’t you at least change your story? Playing the same ‘ruse’ is so sad. 

Forgiveness means that I trust God to deal with you. I am not your Savior. He is. I will not ‘tie’ myself to you in friendship. You do not know what that word means. Nor do I think you even care. In my opinion you are a Narcissist. All about you, all the time. They have real counselors that may be able to help you with that. Not me. Not my job.

I tried to help, but you only used that as an opportunity to attack. I will protect myself and my family from Predators. And I respect myself  and my family enough to say NO. 

Stop harassing me. No more emails, no more friend requests to me or my children, no more stopping by to damage anything where I live. Go live your life and leave me and my family out of it. 


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  1. This also someone with a religious spirit. Some of the characteristics you describe are identical.

  2. Awesome post… but so sorry that you are going through this. The word “leech” came to me… one that will try to suck the life out of you. We have to have our boundaries and it sounds that this person has repeatedly crossed yours. I will be praying for you and your family. And love your new site… and your new pictures. Beautiful!

    • Thank you Angel, that’s a very good word. I wish this person well and to leave me alone at the se time

      • Psalm 91:3-4 For he will rescue you from every trap and protect you from deadly disease. He will cover you with his feathers. He will shelter you with his wings.His faithful promises are your armor and protection.

  3. Amen, great post! Somebody smart said we need to learn the recognize the difference between a protege and a parasite. Christ spoke about pruning a vine and if know anything about growing grapes, there are these suckers that grow out that will never produce fruit. All they do is rob the vine of it’s nutrients. A good vineyard tender prunes these suckers off and throws them in the fire, so the rest of the plant can produce the fruit it was designed to produce. A sucker is called a parasite, while a growing vine that will produce is called a protege.

    • What a great analogy girl – I never thought of it like that. It makes sooooo much sense, thank you; pruning away here!

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