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More Lies from the Abuser

Lies piled on lies. I’m not feeling very joyful today. Guess it’s time for a ‘rant.’ I am so tired of the lies. My ex, the abuser in my past, keeps lying. He is not a part of my life, with the exception of the kids we had together. I have full placement and full custody. Yet, he still has visitation rights. Yipee. Now I know he is their father but why won’t he treat them better than he treated me? I really get mad when he lies to them!

Long story short, he thought he would play the ‘hero’ a year or so ago. He bought the kids both iPhones. They already had phones. It cost me $300 to cancel that contract. And he paid their phone bill for about a year. Or come to find out, his new girlfriend did. Yep, he takes kids to Disneyland, buys two new vehicles, gets a new house, new furniture. And here we sit again – no child support and more lies.

Well, girlfriend #1 must have caught on. I tried to warn her. But guess what? Big surprise. He took money from her too. I recently found out that he got a judgement and garnishment for $5000 from the girlfriend. It’s on CCAP. He told the kids he broke up with her. Yeah right.

Then he goes and gets another girlfriend. And she funds his ‘business’ for another 6 months. Until she gets the garnishment from girlfriend #1. Girlfriend #2 pays him with a rubber check. NSF. She probably wised up and stopped payment on the check. Why do I care? I don’t. But now he doesn’t pay the kids phone bills and their phones get turned off. And he has told them everyday that, “I’ll turn them on tomorrow.” Yeah right. It’s been almost 2 weeks now. But you know, he will turn them on tomorrow, as he calls on HIS new phone. Lies. All lies. And he is blaming it on the check. Like the check is alive and it’s all the checks fault.

And I get to pick up the pieces. And I get to go buy new trackphones. With time. I don’t want to commit to another contract and have to do that again. Great. Once again mom gets to fix it. While he sits and blames everyone else and piles up the lies. I am so sick of this I could just puke.

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A Handful of Sand

A Handful of Sand

Copyright 2013 Diana Rasmussen

His cover is totally blown
All his secrets are known
With hang up calls
Ringing their home phone

All she has is a handful of sand
Falling through her fingers
The tighter she grips
The more she loses
Just a handful of sand

Accepting the finality
Of his depravity
She refuses
false reality

All she has is a handful of sand
Falling through her fingers
The tighter she grips
The more she loses
Just a handful of sand

Like a snake slithering in the grass
A man with two faces is dangerous

All she has is a handful of sand
Falling through her fingers
The tighter she grips
The more she loses
Just a handful of sand

MY PRAYER FOR YOU:

Dear Lord,

There are so many of us that have been lied to, and cheated on.  Adultery, cheating, lying, unfaithfulness, sneaking around – whatever. What they did was wrong, you know it and we know it.  Help us Lord.  We don’t know how to fix this mess.  How can we trust again? What do we do? Where do we go from here?  Looking to You for answers…

(P.S.  I do not know who I was supposed to share this with tonight.  Just know you are not alone.  I have been there too.  And yes, it was wrong.  When my ex cheated on me I had to decide – should I stay or should I go? Was counseling an option? Did he want to change? I couldn’t change him, or fix him. He did not know what love was.  And he didn’t want to stop and learn either. I couldn’t make him love me. It wasn’t about me – a hard heart doesn’t let anyone in, even me. And some people do NOT want to change.  And I was worth more than that – and so are you beloved.)