Lies piled on lies. I’m not feeling very joyful today. Guess it’s time for a ‘rant.’ I am so tired of the lies. My ex, the abuser in my past, keeps lying. He is not a part of my life, with the exception of the kids we had together. I have full placement and full custody. Yet, he still has visitation rights. Yipee. Now I know he is their father but why won’t he treat them better than he treated me? I really get mad when he lies to them!
Long story short, he thought he would play the ‘hero’ a year or so ago. He bought the kids both iPhones. They already had phones. It cost me $300 to cancel that contract. And he paid their phone bill for about a year. Or come to find out, his new girlfriend did. Yep, he takes kids to Disneyland, buys two new vehicles, gets a new house, new furniture. And here we sit again – no child support and more lies.
Well, girlfriend #1 must have caught on. I tried to warn her. But guess what? Big surprise. He took money from her too. I recently found out that he got a judgement and garnishment for $5000 from the girlfriend. It’s on CCAP. He told the kids he broke up with her. Yeah right.
Then he goes and gets another girlfriend. And she funds his ‘business’ for another 6 months. Until she gets the garnishment from girlfriend #1. Girlfriend #2 pays him with a rubber check. NSF. She probably wised up and stopped payment on the check. Why do I care? I don’t. But now he doesn’t pay the kids phone bills and their phones get turned off. And he has told them everyday that, “I’ll turn them on tomorrow.” Yeah right. It’s been almost 2 weeks now. But you know, he will turn them on tomorrow, as he calls on HIS new phone. Lies. All lies. And he is blaming it on the check. Like the check is alive and it’s all the checks fault.
And I get to pick up the pieces. And I get to go buy new trackphones. With time. I don’t want to commit to another contract and have to do that again. Great. Once again mom gets to fix it. While he sits and blames everyone else and piles up the lies. I am so sick of this I could just puke.
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10 thoughts on “More Lies from the Abuser”
I am glad that we are here so you can rant all you want and we will listen and be here for you. Hugs and prayers
Awwww, thanks Patty. I really appreciate you and your heart. We are all connected…Blessings, Diana
I thank God for our connection
Me too Patty, me too. love you, Diana
It is good to rant from time to time. I understand fully. I have placed you in my prayer list. Keep your head up and smile on. God bless!
Thank you so much. God bless you too. 😉
Diana… This breaks my heart for all of you. It also sounds so familiar with the lies and manipulations. Promises, promises and more broken promises. My ex wanted to buy an iphone and new phone plan for only 1 of our children that he is closest to as he always shows favoritism. I was concerned the same thing would happen, but he never mentioned it again to our son. Our children get wounded every time their fathers’ fail them with their lies. It’s sad that it happens, and it is sad that children reach a point that they don’t trust and don’t expect anything from their fathers. I will be praying for you all… Love you sister!!
Thank you Angel. You know…bless you too, Diana
MS. D—I’M SO SORRY FOR YOUR KIDS AND FOR YOU.
DO THEY EVER TELL YOU THEY ARE DISAPPOINTED BY THEIR FATHER AND HIS LIES, OR DO THEY EXCUSE HIM?
THEY ARE HIS VICTIMS, AND UNFORTUNATELY FOR THEM ,THEY CAN’T DIVORCE HIM. I’M SURE YOU AND BOB HAVE TO RE-ASSERT YOUR LOVE FOR THEM BECAUSE OF HIS SELFISHNESS. LET’S BE HONEST, HE IS A VERY SELFISH PERSON AND HIS EGO IS MORE IMPORTANT TO HIM THAN HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS CHILDREN.
THE WHOLE THING IS VERY SAD. I DON’T PRETEND TO KNOW THE ANGST YOU LIVE WITH. I CAN ONLY TELL YOU THAT I PRAY FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.
LOVE TO YOU AND BOB,
Yep. I agree t. It breaks my heart to see their disappointment. 🙁