What is Self Sabotage?

They say misery loves company. Right? The more you talk negative about yourself, the worse you feel. Right? Came accross this list and wow, so true! Self sabotage is deadly. It hurts everyone who is trying to help you. It hurts yourself. You become so addicted to people treating you badly that if nobody does it, you do it to yourself. Self-sabotage. Get help today for this self destructive behavior. Learn how to receive good things and get help today.

Source: When Misery is Company, page 117

How many of these statements can you answer in the affirmative?

1. I often self-sabotage relationships, school, work and other positive opportunities and events.
2. I avoid feeling or experiencing life fully.
3. I often get side-tracked or distracted from the most important things.
4. It is not uncommon for me to find or inject the negative into positive situations.
5. I often derail positive momentum in my life or circumstances.
6. I fear feeling too good, too happy or being too successful.
7. I often procrastinate or delay rather than take required action.
8. I am often indecisive.
9. I am rarely sure how I feel about people, places, or things.
10. I have goals and ambitions but don’t do the work required to attain them.
11. I feel like I don’t get any breaks.
12. I often feel incompetent and unworthy.
13. I have difficulty changing my behaviors even in the face of repeated negative consequences.
14. I don’t avoid situations that I know will cause me problems.
15. I too often act on assumptions rather than facts.
16. I resist change of any type.
17. I get tied up in the details rather than looking at the big picture (I can’t see the forest for the trees.)
18. I refuse (or “forget”) to take medications that are helpful.
19. I often isolate.
20. I find it difficult to ask for help or accept help if offered.
21. I tend to push away or reject the people who care the most for me.
22. I sacrifice my own desires and well-being for those of others.
23. I am attracted to unavailable people.
24. I rarely feel like I fit in or belong.
25. I desire closer relationship but avoid the intimacy that ‘closeness’ requires.
26. I am easily addicted to substances or behaviors.

How to recover? The first step is recognizing you have a problem and you are listening to the wrong voices. That critical voice in your head is not of God. It is the enemy and he is trying to kill, steal, and destroy. God has not given you a spirit of fear, but of love, and power, and a sound mind.

Replace those old tapes with the Word of God. Jesus has come to give you life, and life more abundantly.

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