As I sit at my desk today (yes, it’s Saturday) I put up more pictures of my babies. I can’t believe how fast the time has gone. I can’t help but feel humbled and grateful that God has blessed me with such wonderful kids to love. They are so precious and such a gift.
They are all so different and each one is special and unique. I love them no matter what they do or don’t do. Love is like that.
I am so proud of each of them. They have all had their own struggles and come out victorious. I am their biggest cheerleader!
Plus God has blessed me with 2 stepkids too. I love them as well and see them as a gift from God as well!
You probably feel the same way about your kids right?
After working at the local High School this past year I was amazed at the number of fatherless children. Kids who didn’t ask to be left – it was thrust upon them by the poor choice of a man. In many cases the Dad had either left, was addicted to drugs or alcohol, was in jail, or had died.
1. 23.6% of US children (17.4 million) lived in father absent homes in 2014.
[US Census Bureau, 2015] Living arrangements of children under 18 years and marital status of parents, by age, sex, race, and hispanic origin and selected characteristics of the child for all children: 2014. Washington, D.C.: U.S. Census Bureau.
2. In 2011, children living in female-headed homes with no spouse present had a poverty rate of 47.6%. This is over four times the rate for children living in married couple families.
Mom did her best to provide and protect. But speaking from experience, it’s not the same. We Moms get tired. Our incomes drop significantly. We live in poverty now. We work multiple jobs at multiple places just to make ends meet. Often the Dad leaves the picture – regardless of what the Court says. Yeah that child support he is supposed to pay – don’t count on it. Most fathers don’t pay. We blame ourselves for being so ”stupid”. We lost our homes, our marriages, and our self respect. Often women are totally responsible from that day forward for everything. Totally not fair – to the kids or the mom.
Some of us get lucky and get remarried. An understanding stepparent can make a positive influence in a child’s life – if they and the kids are open to it. Often we women do learn from our ‘mistakes’ so as not to repeat the same pattern. Life can and does get better with time. But having a blended family may bring its own set of challenges with it.
Regardless, we have a whole generation of children growing up as orphans. They feel unwanted, unworthy, and unloved. They feel it’s their fault that it happened. They think they could have changed it. They often give up on love, on life, and on themselves.
The effects of fatherlessness upon a child can include:
Loss of self esteem
Loss of respect for themselves and others
Increased anxiety and depression
Acting out including fighting, defiance, and rude behaviors
Loss of moral compass
Early alcohol or drug abuse
Overly promiscuous and early sexual involvement
Overly sensitive to rejection
Overly dramatic or super withdrawn
Possible suicidal tendencies
I have heard many stories from many teens out there. It takes its toll on them. Even though they had nothing to do with it, they may feel it is there fault. It is not. It was the Dad that made the bad choice to abandon his family. In the Army they used to shoot Deserters. Let us as the Family of God ‘adopt’ the fatherless. They need things. Let us show up with our checkbooks along with our prayers. Let us, the Body of Christ, heal the brokenhearted. They need us to be the hands and feet of Jesus.
I have found there is only one way to heal the hurt – Jesus. As I have come to know the Lord he has shown me real love – not sex. He has shown me unconditional love. The Lord has continually provided for me and my kids. He has never left me, even when others have. He has been faithful to me when others have not been. He has healed the hurt that was in my heart. He will do it for you too. God promised to adopt us into his family when we admit our sin – our trying to live life without Him, and turn to Him.
My Prayer for the Fatherless Children:
I pray for all of the fatherless children in this world and their moms who are trying to keep it together. Lord, shine a light in their hearts and cover them with your love. Heal their brokenness. Give them supernatural provision. Let them come to know You and how you have adopted them into your family. Let them know they are loved, wanted, respected, and cherished. Give them a new name and a new identity, in Jesus Name.
God’s Word for the Fatherless:
But may the righteous be glad and rejoice before God;
may they be happy and joyful.
Sing to God, sing in praise of his name,
extol him who rides on the clouds;
rejoice before him—his name is the Lord.
A father to the fatherless,
a defender of widows,
is God in his holy dwelling.
God sets the lonely in families,
he leads out the prisoners with singing;
but the rebellious live in a sun-scorched land. – Psalm 68:3-6 NIV
For you have not received a spirit of slavery leading to fear again, but you have received a spirit of adoption as sons by which we cry out, “Abba! Father!” – Romans 8:15
See how great a love the Father has bestowed on us, that we would be called children of God; and such we are For this reason the world does not know us, because it did not know Him. Beloved, now we are children of God, and it has not appeared as yet what we will be We know that when He appears, we will be like Him, because we will see Him just as He is.” 1John 3:1-2
“Get up”. That’s what I heard the Spirit say when I woke up. Get up out of the old, and walk in the newness of life. How about you? Are you ready for the new things that God is bringing into your life?
I also saw a snake on the ground. the Spirit asked me to stop on it with the Blood of Jesus. So I did, squashed his stupid little head! Yes, we have the power and authority to step on the snakes in our lives!
Behold, I give you the authority to trample on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy, and nothing shall by any means hurt you. – Luke 10:19 NKJV
One thing I have learned is that I had to empty my hands. It was hard to receive anything from the Lord when I kept hanging onto the old things – my hands and my heart were full. Release it, let it go, open up your hands and your heart today to receive from the Lord. He has such beautiful things to show us. And rise with me my friends, “GET UP!”
~Copyright 2015 Diana Rasmussen~
Get up, up, up, up, up
Though I have fallen I rise again
Get up, up, up, up, up
Through the Blood of Jesus
I step on the Enemy’s head!
I’m leaving the old with all sorrow’s untold
Walking in the Spirit reflecting God’s appearance
A son or a daughter I’ve been washed in the Water
Gonna get up, up, up, up, up!
“Therefore we were buried with Him through baptism into death, that just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life.” – Romans 6:4 NKJV
O Zion,You who bring good tidings, Get up into the high mountain;O Jerusalem,You who bring good tidings, Lift up your voice with strength, Lift it up, be not afraid;Say to the cities of Judah, “Behold your God!”
Behold, the Lord God shall come with a strong hand, And His arm shall rule for Him; Behold, His reward is with Him, And His work before Him.
He will feed His flock like a shepherd; He will gather the lambs with His arm, And carry them in His bosom,And gently lead those who are with young. – Isaiah 40:9-11