The Jezebel Spirit – Discerning the Spirit of Control

Every now and again you receive a teaching that transforms you, that helps you see things as they really are.  I am sharing this, as it helped me know why I was continually hooking up with abusive men. Why was I the one attracted to the Jezebel Spirit?  Yep, I was an Ahab. I would do anything for love and attention.  I didn’t see it then, but once I was free and safe, I had to look at my behavior.  I didn’t want to keep repeating the same pattern.  I took a year off from dating – yep, for the first time in my life – I wasn’t attached to anyone.  It was the best thing I ever did.  I came to know God.  I learned to sit at the feet of Jesus and let Him heal the emptiness inside  my soul. Places and wounds that I had tried to heal with relationships – bad relationships.  And then, things started to change for Ms. D.

The Bible Story comes from 1 Kings 16,

1 Kings 21 &

2 Kings 9  


The following is an excerpt from Steve Sampson‘s Book

“Confronting Jezebel”.

Maybe you have met this person – nice to you when someone is watching, then turns around and stabs you in the back.  You know the one – they always have to be the center of attention.  And will use anyone or anything to get on top.  I have run across this Spirit more than once, both in church and in the world.   And she/he has a partner – Ahab, the negotiator,  the doormat, the one who will do anything for love and acceptance – whether it was right or wrong.  Yep I was an Ahab…(Steve has a book for that too!)


The Jezebel Spirit

30 Amazingly Consistent Traits of the Jezebel Spirit

“Jezebel is a spirit, but it has found access through uncrucified flesh.”

Although the Jezebel spirit seems to be more prevalent in women, there is no doubt that it functions just as proficiently through men. (page 59)

1. Refuses to admit guilt or wrong
A Jezebel spirit is never wrong, unless it is a temporary admittance of guilt to gain “favor” with someone. To accept responsibility would violate the core of insecurity and pride from which it operates. When a Jezebel apologizes it isnever in true repentance or acknowledgment of wrongdoing but rather “I’m sorry your feelings were hurt.”

2. Takes credit for everything
While a strong trait of Jezebel is to never take responsibility for his wrong actions or behavior, he also is quick to take credit for benefits for which he contributed no effort.

3. Uses people to accomplish its agenda
The Jezebel spirit lets others do its dirty work. The Jezebel gets another person’s emotions stirred up, then lets that person go into a rage. The Jezebel sits back looking innocent, saying “Who me? What did I do?” This behavior makes it difficult for even the most ardent truth seekers to pin one down. The Jezebel spirit is clever in its agenda.

4. Withholds information
This is a form of control. A Jezebel wields power over you by knowing something you don’t know in a situation. In the eyes of a Jezebel, having information you don’t have is a powerful weapon of control.

5. Talks in confusion
It is impossible to converse with a Jezebel in logic. One pastor wrote a six-page letter to his elders about a situation in the church. The context was so vague that no one was without confusion. This is a way to maintain control and domination. When confronting a Jezebel, the subject may be changed five times in one minute. Confusion keeps them “undiscovered” and unexposed.

6. Volunteers for anything
A Jezebel volunteers in order to establish control. He seemingly has endless (nervous) energy and eagerly looks for opportunities to be in charge of projects. Although he will work hard, his motive is never pure, and eventually his secret agenda cannot be hidden.

7. Lies
A Jezebel lies convincingly. No one can lie better than he can. He can turn on the charm and make you believe blue is red. He always fools those whom he’s just met while those who have been victimized by his tactics stand by helplessly. The fact that Jezebel can look you in the eye and lie just shows how strong and adamant this rebellious and recalcitrant spirit is.

8. Ignores people
A classic ploy of a controller is to ignore you when you disagree with him. This tactic is frequently used by leaders when someone doesn’t agree with their plans, and they isolate the person by ignoring him. Some in these situations have been ignored for months, just because they chose not to be a puppet and say to every idea or whim. This puts the person out of the leader’s grace and forces him to either “come around” to the leader’s way of thinking or be indefinitely ignored. One is not free to disagree with a controller.

9. Never gives credit or shows gratitude
A Jezebel will rarely acknowledge another person’s actions, not even for something that turned out to greatly benefit the Jezebel. He just cannot bring himself to say thank you or to acknowledge that someone else did something right. There are those who have gone out of their way to bless a Jezebel by being the catalyst of sending him on a trip or giving a gift. Yet never will there be a thank you. This again puts the controller in a position of power.

10. Criticizes everyone
This is a characteristic of a controller. He has to be the one who looks good, so he will quickly sharply criticize anyone who makes a suggestion or plan. Even though he likes the plan, he can only criticize it because the idea did not originate from him. Criticizing others elevates the controller in his own mind.

11. One-upmanship
A person with a Jezebel spirit will always upstage another person. He feels threatened by anyone who dares to steal the limelight or anyone who is a threat to his power and control. If you are with such a person and tell of your accomplishment or victory, you can be assured he will quickly tell of something he has accomplished.

12. Sequesters information
A Jezebel loves to be in control of information. If there is ever a situation where information is important, he will push to be the “first” to know it. He seems to know everything about everyone. Where he gets all his information is beyond comprehension, but he can dictate to you data and details about people’s lives and actions in mass quantities.

13. Uses information
A Jezebel uses information as a leverage for power and then shares tidbits with you, often things told him in confidence. This gives him a sense of power, even to the point of trying to impress people by “knowing things” that others do not.

14. Talks incessantly
Many people talk habitually, but a Jezebel uses talking as a form of control. In a typical conversation, he does all the talking, whether it is about sports, the weather or the Kingdom of God. Because of this form of control, he is unable to receive input from anyone in his life. All conversation with him is one-sided. You are doing the listening.

15. Spiritualizes everything
When a controller is confronted, he commonly spiritualizes the situation, explaining it off on God. This prevents him from owning up to responsibility required of him. The implication is always, “You’ve got a problem; I don’t.”

16. Is insubordinate
A Jezebel never takes the side of the employer or a person in authority, unless it is a temporary action to make himself look good. He often will take credit for someone else’s idea. His main desire is for power and control. There is no conscience when an opportunity for recognition presents itself.

17. Is pushy and domineering
A person with a Jezebel spirit pressures you to do things, seemingly ripping from you your right to choose or make a decision for yourself. He makes others feel as though they don’t have enough sense to think for themselves.

18. Is clairvoyant
Many who operate with a spirit of control also have a clairvoyant spirit. A Jezebel has supernatural help in knowing and sensing information. If he uses this against you, he may say “I can’t tell you how I know this. I just know it.” This is not the Holy Spirit, but the help of a clairvoyant or familiar spirit. Clairvoyance may be defined as the power to perceive things that are out of the range of human senses.

19. Uses the element of surprise
A Jezebel’s main thrust is to be in control, and a large part of control is catching you off guard. Therefore, the element of surprise works well when he shows up a day early for a meeting, etc.

20. Sows seeds of discord
A Jezebel will continually belittle another person in the most subtle way. The strategy is to “gain” control by minimizing the value of another person. It is common for him to tell half-truths to implicate another person in your eyes. By sowing these seeds, he hopes to eventually reap a harvest of destruction, improving his position of power.

21. Commands attention
A Jezebel likes to be the center of attention and doesn’t like to see others recognized and lauded. When someone else is recognized, he will quickly undermine the person’s accomplishments verbally.

22. Is vengeful
Since a Jezebel is never wrong, if you contradict or confront one, get ready to become his worst enemy. As long as you are in agreement with him, all is fine. But if you confront or challenge him, then look out. You are the target of his fiercest venom. A Jezebel will stop at nothing to destroy your reputation.

23. Attempts to make you look like you’re the Jezebel
A Jezebel spirit is difficult to pin down. If the person is near to being confronted, he or she will skillfully twist the entire situation, trying to make the innocent person look like the one who is attempting to control. As always, the Jezebel will do anything to look like the one who is right.

24. Insinuates disapproval
A Jezebel will often imply disapproval to those under his or her control. The controlled person feels no freedom to express an opinion, for fear of disapproval. This often manifests in a marriage or in a working environment.

25. Knows it all
A Jezebel is usually blatant regarding his knowledge of everything. Quick to express his opinion in any area, he leaves little room for anyone to point out the other side of an issue. He has made idols of his opinions.

26. Is ambitious
The Jezebel has strong desire, but all for self. “I want what I want when I want it,” describes his worship of self-will. A Jezebel leader will never use the words, “We have a vision,” but rather, “My vision is thus and so.”

27. Gift giving
Gift giving is a form of manipulation a Jezebel uses that always makes you feel obligated to him. It also compromises the victim in speaking direct and confronting truth. Naturally, not everyone who gives gifts is guilty of control, but gift giving is a tactic used by those who have a need to control.

28. Is independent
No one has input in a Jezebel’s life. He fraternizes with no one unless it is to get you to “cooperate” with his agenda.

29. Is religious
A Jezebel dwells in the local church but doesn’t like authority unless he is in the position of authority.

30. Hides
We all want to believe that the person with a Jezebel spirit is delivered. The person may seem “normal” for a period, exhibiting none of the classic traits. Then suddenly without warning a situation will arise, once again with the spirit taking control and wreaking havoc over lives. Hopefully, true repentance will come. Only then will the person be delivered.

NOTE: A friend has reminded me of one very prominent and important characteristic that is missing from this list written by Steve Sampson so I have added characteristic 31.

31. Sex and seduction
Jezebels will always try to lure their victim into bed to commit fornication or adultery. Jezebel really does not care about sex. This evil spirit uses sex as a way to control you.

Excerpt taken from “Confronting Jezebel: Discerning and Defeating the Spirit of Control” by Steve Sampson, pages 62-68 To read more,buy the book!

Steve Sampson has written a number of books about the Christian walk. He travels and ministers extensively, offering encouragement, faith, and healing to the body of Christ. Steve has three children and lives in Birmingham, Alabama.

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“But why do you let that Jezebel who calls herself a prophet mislead my dear servants into Cross-denying, self-indulging religion? I gave her a chance to change her ways, but she has no intention of giving up a career in the god-business. I’m about to lay her low, along with her partners, as they play their sex-and-religion games. The bastard offspring of their idol-whoring I’ll kill. Then every church will know that appearances don’t impress me. I x-ray every motive and make sure you get what’s coming to you. (Revelation 2:20-23 MSG)


  1. Thanks for the post. It’s a blessing all Christians need to do some soul searching.

  2. My sister forwarded this outline of the Jezebel spirit. It was both enlightening and eye opening! I needed more clarity and info on defining this spirit. I thank God Jesus for Revelation and accept total healing. SM

    • I am grateful it helped you. Once I learned the characteristics I was surprised at how many people over the years I have know that have the spirit of control.

  3. The jezebel spirit is a prophet killer and it mostly operates among the females. If females could learn to humble themselves in prayer and be lowly of heart and be obedient to the scriptures the spirit of Jezebel will be quenched in our homes and also in the churches. Thanks.

    • You will soon find that most of the Jezebels in a church, have little real knowledge of God’s Word; so they can not authoritatively claim that it is God’s spirit telling them such ‘n such.

    • @ truth I hate to say this, but the spirit of jezabel operates in men too! it’s a spirit it knows no sexual preference. I’ve seen this spirit manifest in plenty of men

      • I agree with you. I have seen it too. Let’s just say the Jezebel spirit doesn’t dicriminate – it will inhabit anyone who let’s it in.

  4. I am an Ahab for Ten years now. Reading word for word an understanding some-many know of this spirit has brought me relief.
    Wisdom and church has not been apart of our lives. I believe in GOD. I just find it really hard to get my partner to follow me thru the doors of goodness. My concern is my children… I pray my children are safe from Jezebel.

    • I understand. I was an Ahab too for years. I had to learn to say no. The Jezebels in my life didn’t like it when I stood up to them – even if what I said was true. There is no reasoning with this spirit I have found – it’s their way or the highway.

      • You stole Your balls back from Her purse. You manned up. God bless You and those who follow Your ways.

  5. They stamp their hooves.

    Really, some of them can’t take two steps across the room without shaking cabinets, windows and the house. It has nothing to do with their weight, but how they carry themselves. Pounding everyone in the house into submission with low-frequency thumping so low even earplugs won’t work.
    They slam drawers, doors, and cabinets, too. Take out frozen pork chops and smash them apart on the counter.

    Thud thud thud.

  6. good day, I was trapped by this spirit had me doing things that destroyed something beautiful and pure. I am engaged or think I still am. I was lured in and given and std and I in turn gave it to my fiancé. we are constantly fighting and the person has left and went on to a married man and ruined his marriage. this person has no regard for anyone but herself. its difficult explaining to fiancé what has happened and how controlled. she says I am making up a spirit story to run away from what had happened.

    • I understand Isaac. It is much easier to see after we are out of it. I am grateful that th3e Lord has brought you out with wisdom. Share your journey my friend. God is with you. Diana

  7. I used to go to this prophet’s prophetic seminar and stopped because I witnessed this prophet slander a person that I knew busted her butt for her. She even laughed when she slandered TM. I had talked to this person being slandered and she was the sweetest person I had ever met. I even went to her for deliverance ministry and she saved my life and my marriage. So, I was in shock when this prophet said horrible things. I believe this so called prophet is a Jezebel. I will never ever go back to this seminar.

    • I am sorry that the Body of Christ hurt you. I have been back-stabbed too. I know it hurts. May the God of all comfort heal the hurt. I wouldn’t go back either. It’s ok to leave some doors shut…

  8. the Lord led me to read John Paul Jackson’s book when I was going through a similar situation in my church and boy did it ever help me!! I thank God for all those including yourself Diana that have been bold enough to speak to this matter. God bless you.

  9. Very interesting and informative and thank you for the follow on my Cyber Support group blog.

  10. Thank Pastor Debora for highlighting what the spirit of Jezebel can do. I have been afflicted my this spirit at by place of work – where someone in authority is tormenting us. What can an employee under the oppressive spirit of Jezebel do?. Thank you once again for the insights.

    • Thank you for the great question. I had to go search it put more and I came across this video.
      This is one of the BEST videos on how to deal with the Jezebel spirit affecting a church or an area.

      Questions this answered for me:

      How do you know you are affected by a Jezebel Spirit?

      What does the Jezebel spirit do?

      Why or how does this spirit enter a person?

      How do you get rid of it?


  11. Unfortunately I have met a lot of these creatures both male and female. Christian councelling has taught me the proper way to deal with them and the reward is a lot less stress in my life.

  12. Good write-up, Diana, and a great exchange with all of you ladies. Good books and an important topic. The Lord bless you all with the Spirit of discernment and true agape love in Christ.

  13. Yikes! Really made me think there. All I can say is the next time I’m just going to run as fast as I can 🙂 On a side note..I read the comments re John Paul Jackson. I hadn’t heard of him before nor my friends but I just watched a good video on YouTube by him and checked out his website. I’d be interested in hearing what you think when you are done reading the book :). I bought a book today on Amazon too. Must be in the air 🙂 Blessings!

    • Yep, God is giving us all new revelation these days! Stay tuned, we meet Ahab tomorrow…(ouch, truth hurts!). I hadn’t heard of John Paul Jackson either, but I’m already on Chapter 4. I’ll have to check out Youtube too, thanks Princess! What u reading?

      • “The Magnificent Goodness of God..” by Tim Rowe. I saw a link to it on The Goodness of God Ministries blog and felt compelled 🙂 God is doing a really big “heart surgery” in me right now and showing me stuff that needs to either go or thinking be corrected. All over the place I am getting “He is good” “He will never leave me nor forsake me” (some rather significant abandonment issues that I was not wanting to look at). God is good 🙂 Blessings Princess Diana!

        • That sounds like a great one…you’ll have to keep us posted, abandonment, wow, I haven’t opened up that can of worms in a while…

        • Oh, yeah, can of worms is a good way to describe it 🙂 I can think of some others but they are not very nice LOL! Awful, painful place but God wants to work there so I am willing but I just pray it be quick! It’s like spiritual surgery but you don’t get anesthesia. That’s why it’s all messed up anyway because I “anesthetized” it for so long 🙂

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