Tag: Resentment

How to Unlock Your Heart

Resentment. . . a door quietly closes.

Anger… the door slams shut!

Hurts from your heritage.. . fasten the latch!

Weakened faith . . . throw the bolt!

Four elements that can lock up a heart, keeping delight out and darkness in.  Resentment, the cocaine of the emotions.  Anger, the destroyer of joy.  Your heritage- the straitjacket of expectation.  Declining faith- the marauder of hope.” ~ Max Lucado

You can read more of Max’s thoughts on how to open a locked heart here:

Stronger in the Broken Places.

(Just a sidenote for those of you who have been in abusive relationships. Forgiveness does NOT mean I will let him hit me again. I had a very twisted view of what Forgiveness meant.  I thought that I was supposed to just ‘forgive and forget’ and let him do it again and again – 70 x 7 right? Wrong.  My forgiveness towards my abusers meant I would not take revenge, nor put myself or my children in harm’s way, but that I would trust GOD to deal with him. I had to let go of the ending  – and walk away.  I was not his Savior, I was not going to change him, it was not my job.  My warped thinking kept me hostage for a long time.  More to come on this area!)

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Perhaps the wound is old. A parent abused you. A teacher slighted you. And you are angry.Or perhaps the wound is fresh. The friend who owes you money just drove by in a new car. The boss who hired you with promises of promotions has forgotten how to pronounce your name. Your circle of friends escaped on a weekend getaway, and you …And you are hurt.

Part of you is broken, and the other part is bitter. Part of you wants to cry, and part of you wants to fight. The tears you cry are hot because they come from your heart, and there is a fire burning in your heart. It’s the fire of anger. It’s blazing. It’s consuming. Its flames leap up under a steaming pot of revenge.
And you are left with a decision. “Do I put the fire out or heat it up? Do I get over it or get even? Do I release it or resent it? Do I let my hurts heal, or do I let hurt turn into hate?” . . .

Resentment is the deliberate decision to nurse the offense until it becomes a black, furry, growling grudge.

Unfaithfulness is wrong. Revenge is bad. But the worst part of all is that, without forgiveness, bitterness is all that is left. [Max Lucado LET THE JOURNEY BEGIN p. 71]

“In the final analysis, forgiveness is an act of faith. By forgiving another, I am trusting that God is a better justice-maker than I am. By forgiving, I release my own right to get even and leave all issues of fairness for God to work out. I leave in God’s hands the scales that must balance justice and mercy.” [Yancey p.83]

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