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When is it Stalking?

I know I am sensitive with this issue. I have been stalked. I have had people chase me with cars, on foot, on the phone, in person, and even show up outside my glass sliding door. I have had things outside destroyed. I have had nails in my driveway, cars vandalized, broken windows, etc. I have had people sneak into my apartment. I know the terror that comes with being stalked.

However, now I am finding stalking in a new arena – online. Has this happened to you? I find myself ‘hiding’ and not wanting to come online. All because someone wouldn’t be respectful. I have had ex’s stalk my Linkedin. I have had old High School people I know nothing about try to message and contact and put something on my FaceBook page everyday. And then when I deny a friend request – they ‘friend’ my brother just so they can post on my page. Did you know that ‘friends of friends’ can see everything on your FaceBook Page? I tried to change it and it went back. I am seriously thinking of deleting the whole thing.

I have had many, many people post negative things – all on my space. I get weary sometimes of monitoring all the online stuff.  Yes, I have reached many – but with a cost.  There are haters, there are trolls – those who hunt you down just to try to pull you under the bridge. And then there are some who will not take “NO” for an answer in this ‘instant’ age.  P.S. I am not your ‘fix’. I am not your ‘drug’. I am not your ‘instant messenger’.

If you text me and I don’t answer – I am busy.

If you call me next and I don’t answer – perhaps I do not want to talk.

If you e-mail me next –  I will not answer.

So why do you send another text?

And then post something on my FaceBook page?  Post on your own page.

And then when I still do not answer why do you message me on FaceBook?

And then when I do not answer you instantly you start calling other people to bad mouth me – really?

Seriously? I didn’t answer.  I am busy, or not available, or I DO NOT want to talk right now.  I get to choose who and when I want to talk to.  Please – respect  my privacy.  Respect my boundaries.  No means No.  I have choices too – it’s not always about YOU!

And the more you do it – the less I will answer.

In my opinion that is rude – and stalking. Knock it off!

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Don’t Make Me Cross That Line

Sometimes a girl just has to say NO.  Enough.  Nada.  My friend Penny from Vermont wrote this song and it is exactly how I feel today.  Sooooo much going on for Ms D.  My daughters wedding is in 1 week, I have a big Festival to play at on Sat, and sometimes life just has a way of hitting you back.  Not looking forward to seeing EX#1. I just don’t want any issues.  Last time I saw him was at one of my daughter’s High School Graduation.  Always the glare/scowl and still cuts me down every chance he gets. I even had to block his e-mail because he was still sending me garbage.  Seriously – he is still trying to fight even though it has been over 20 years since the divorce.  This is the guy who, just for spite, took all the things I had given my girls and burnt them in the fire pit – while they watched. The one who would ‘sit me down’ at the kitchen table and lecture me for 2 hours about how I was not a good wife or mother.  And the guy who after he broke up with his girlfriend – peed on her stuff.  And the guy that took a table and chopped it up with an AXE – in the house.  Ugggh. I just don’t even want to see him. Have you ever seen someone with BLACK EYES?  I know that they were blue – but God gives you the vision to see the evil?

And now he has viewed my LinkedIn profile – really????  He is probably even reading this…whatever.  I’m gonna keep writing and singing anyway. 

But how do you protect yourself online?

Please pray for Ms D for protection  – thanks!  So, Penny’s song is my Mantra today – DON’T MAKE ME CROSS THAT LINE!

Now I’ve given you fair warning
I’ve given you the news I’ve made my resolution
now you have got to choose
You’re driving me crazy
Better change your careless ways
Use your imagination
This is the last time I’m gonna tell you
Don’t make me cross that line

Penny has made this a free download just for you today – Thanks Penny!  Be sure to click on the title or her picture for your free song!

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Don’t Make Me Cross That Line

© 2012, Michael Palumbo and Penny Towers Wilber

It was 3 am in the morning
and you weren’t there
vacations over
now this ain’t fair
You’re driving me crazy
better change your careless ways
Use your imagination
(You know what I’m talking about)
Don’t make me cross that line.

Thelma and Louise
got nothing over me
Because what I’ve been thinking
You don’t want to see
You’re driving me crazy
Better stop while there’s time
Use your imagination
(Think about it baby)
Don’t make me cross that line

Remember when you told me
Remember when you showed me
those good times
Never had to worry
Never had to hurry
things were fine
What’s the situation?
Use your imagination
(You must be getting the picture by now)
Don’t make me cross that line

Now I’ve given you fair warning
I’ve given you the news
I’ve made my resolution
now you have got to choose
You’re driving me crazy
Better change your careless ways
Use your imagination
This is the last time I’m gonna tell you
Don’t make me cross that line

  
Lyric Credits Penny Towers Wilber
Music Credits Michael Palumbo
Producer Credits Penny Towers Wilber and Protilius Productions
Performance Credits Penny Towers Wilber and Michael Palumbo

 

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