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Life is too Short to Sweat the Small Stuff

I have known 5 people who passed from this life and into the next over the past few months. It’s humbling. We always think we have more time here on planet Earth. I am learning how to let go of the negative people in my life and not to sweat the small stuff. It hasn’t been easy. It’s not a natural thing either, that’s for sure.

I had a disagreement with my boss this past week. I feel what she did was wrong. She doesn’t think so. I haven’t pursued it. I bit my tongue and didn’t say anything. But it affected me. I woke up at 4 AM four times is past week after having dreams I was fighting with her. It’s exhausting. At this point, it really doesn’t matter who was right and who wasn’t. It’s not a contest. I guess there will always be times that workers and management do not see eye to eye.

Then I had to ask myself:

“How important is it Diana?”

“Will it really matter a year from now?” No.

“Does her option of me define me?” No.

“Does she want to help me succeed?” No.

“Do I have to let her opinion affect me?” No.

I read this great story on a blog that helped me put it in perspective. It was a Buddha story, so don’t get all freaked out ok?

Buddha was well known for his ability to respond to evil with good.  There was a man who knew about his reputation and he traveled miles and miles and miles to test Buddha. When he arrived and stood before Buddha, he verbally abused him constantly; he insulted him; he challenged him; he did everything he could to offend Buddha.

Buddha was unmoved, he simply turned to the man and said, “May I ask you a question?”

The man responded with, “Well, what?”

Buddha said, “If someone offers you a gift and you decline to accept it, to whom then does it belong?”

The man said, “Then it belongs to the person who offered it.”

Buddha smiled, “That is correct.  So if I decline to accept your abuse, does it not then still belong to you?”

The man was speechless and walked away.

Source: https://personalexcellence.co/blog/critical-people/

How I am Learning to not Sweat the Small Stuff:

  • I don’t have to attend every argument I am invited to.
  • I don’t have to let the negativity of others in.
  • I can agree to disagree.
  • It’s a job, not who I am.
  • I don’t have to prove myself to everyone. I can just be me.
  • I can accept that not everyone will agree with me or even like me, that’s ok. We are each entitled to our own thoughts and opinions. Life would be boring if we were all the same.
  • God knows and God sees. He knows the truth. I can be free from the opinion of others. I can choose to trust Him to deal with the ‘sandpaper people in my life.
  • We all reap what we sow. I’m gonna plant my own seeds and take care of my own garden. I want good fruit, fruit that will last. I’ll plant kindness and peace, and hope.
  • God will repay her for her false accusations. I don’t have to.
  • I’ll pray for her. God says to pray for those who persecute you. Do I want to? No. But I know the only way I will be free of this is if I let go of it and let God take care of it. I trust God. He is faithful. He is true.
  • I’m going to refocus on the things I am grateful for, not the things I am not. If you have ever used a magnifying glass you know it magnifies what you look at. I am going to magnify the good things, not the bad.

(all images from Pinterest)

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5 Quotes to Honor our Fallen Soldiers – Remembering Ethan Barclay-Weberpal

Sometimes there are no words to express how we feel when one of our own dies. It’s hard. We recently lost one of our hometown Soldiers to a senseless act of violence. Yes, Ethan Barclay-Weberpal was killed Jan. 16 at Camp Pendleton was from Janesville, WI. Our city mourns him. It’s not right. He just graduated boot camp and was killed by a fellow Marine. Stabbed to death by a peer. He was a Marine. What happened to Semper Fidelis?

“Semper Fidelis” or “Semper Fi” signifies the dedication that individual Marines have to “Corps and country,” and to their fellow Marines. It means “always faithful” and it’s the Motto of the Marine Corps. What happened?

Not much is being released in the News, just that the other Marine was arrested.  I didn’t know Ethan, but my friend did.  I can’t imagine the pain that Ethan’s family is going through. It is so wrong.

According to USMClife.com:

Messages also came from Marines who knew the private first class, “saying what a great guy he was, sharing pictures, offering to help in any way they can while they are hurting themselves,” Casey said.

One of those Marines described Ethan as an “amazing” young man who brought a smile to everyone who knew him, and one of the few who continued to go to church.

The Marine said the pastor once invited anyone who knew the songs to lead them, and Ethan knew all the words.

“He led a lot of people to God,” Casey said.

“Those are messages that make you say, …” Scott said, hesitating.

“They make you ask why,” Casey said, finishing the thought.

Dear Lord, comfort Ethan’s family and friends. Flood them with your love and your comfort. And bring justice to this situation, in Jesus Name!

You can donate to Ethan’s family here:

https://www.gofundme.com/marine-pfc-ethan-barclay-weberpal

5 Quotes to Remember Our Fallen Soldiers

  1.  “We do not know one promise these men made, one pledge they gave, one word they spoke; but we do know they summed up and perfected, by one supreme act, the highest virtues of men and citizens. For love of country they accepted death, and thus resolved all doubts, and made immortal their patriotism and their virtue.” – James A. Garfield
  2.  “It doesn’t take a hero to order men into battle. It takes a hero to be one of those men who goes into battle.” H. Norman Schwarzkopf
  3.  “As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter the words, but to live by them.” – John F. Kennedy
  4.  “And they who for their country die shall fill an honored grave, for glory lights the soldier’s tomb, and beauty weeps the brave.” Joseph Rodman Drake
  5.  “A hero is someone who has given his or her life to something bigger than oneself.” – Joseph Campbell

 

 

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How Thankfulness Changes the Atmosphere and Stops Negative Thoughts

Be thankful. Sometimes easier said then done. Yet I have found when I purpose in my heart to be thankful the atmosphere changes. My focus changes, my heart changes, and my mood changes.

I must admit the first thought in my head may not be the most positive thing. I think the Enemy knows that and when I’m not quite up yet, the self condemning thoughts try to start. I won’t repeat them, just know that they are not good.

I have found the secret to get the bad thoughts to stop – start thanking God. It doesn’t matter for what – anything.

“Thank You Lord for a new day. ”

“Thank You Lord for keeping me and my family safe.”

“Thank You Lord for your grace and mercy.”

These are just a few of my ‘go to’ thank yous. And instantly the condemning thoughts stop!

I don’t think the Enemy can live in the place of praise!

pray without ceasing, in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. Do not quench the Spirit.

1 Thessalonians 5:17-19 NKJV

Thankfulness changes the atmosphere and stops negative thoughts!

Are You Freaking Serious?

We all run into those situations. Where someone does something so ridiculously crazy you stop and ask yourself, “Are you freaking serious?” You don’t know whether to laugh out loud or beat them with a stick. Seriously.

We all have our own point of view. It’s the filter we look through to see our world. Then there are those who challenge us – just because they are still talking. Whether it’s family, work, friends, it really doesn’t matter. We all have “sandpaper people” in our lives who rub us the wrong way. It’s irritating. It’s uncomfortable. I don’t like it one bit.

What do you do when they come along and mess us your world?

Do you “scratch” back and say the first thought that comes in your head?

I tried that. It really is an easy way to start World War 3.

The older I get, the more I am willing to brush it off. Maybe it’s age, maybe it’s wisdom. I’ve learned not to say the first thing that comes to mind. That doesn’t work. Learned the hard way. Too many times I opened my mouth and regretted it later.

What about you? How do you deal with people who drive you crazy?

Breaking the Spirit of Poverty

I have been poor. I have been homeless. It was not fun. I thought at that time that God was mad at me and I had earned my poverty. I was wrong.  I believed the lies of the Enemy for a long time – and stayed broke. It was not fun, not one bit.

God does not give us a spirit of poverty. We were made to be blessed. We are the most blessed poeple on the Earth. God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and love and a sound mind. I had to reject the lies that I had believed and embrace the Truth. God did not make his kids to be broke and wanting. God is a good, good Father and desires to bless us.

 “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” –  1 Timothy 1:7 KJV

Jesus has already paid the price to destroy the works and lies of the Devil. It is finished. Reject the lies. God does not want you to live in want. He desires to give you the desires of your heart. God is for you, not against you.

“He who sins is of the devil, for the devil has sinned from the beginning. For this purpose the Son of God was manifested, that He might destroy the works of the devil.” – 1 John 3:8 KJV

God made you to have life, and life more abundantly. He made you to bless you and to prosper you. Our Daddy is not broke and He does not withold any good thing for his kids!

 “Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers.” – 3 John 1:2 KJV

Don’t abuse the blessing. Don’t start asking people for money and airplanes. Stand on the Word and watch what God will do. One thing I have learned is that you don’t have to chase the blessings. They will come to you – because God desires to bless you!

“Now it shall come to pass, if you diligently obey the voice of the Lord your God, to observe carefully all His commandments which I command you today, that the Lord your God will set you high above all nations of the earth.  And all these blessings shall come upon you and overtake you, because you obey the voice of the Lord your God:

 “Blessed shall you be in the city, and blessed shall you be in the country.

“Blessed shall be the fruit of your body, the produce of your ground and the increase of your herds, the increase of your cattle and the offspring of your flocks.

“Blessed shall be your basket and your kneading bowl.

“Blessed shall you be when you come in, and blessed shall you bewhen you go out.

“The Lord will cause your enemies who rise against you to be defeated before your face; they shall come out against you one way and flee before you seven ways.

“The Lord will command the blessing on you in your storehouses and in all to which you set your hand, and He will bless you in the land which the Lord your God is giving you.

“The Lord will establish you as a holy people to Himself, just as He has sworn to you, if you keep the commandments of the Lord your God and walk in His ways.  Then all peoples of the earth shall see that you are called by the name of the Lord, and they shall be afraid of you.  And the Lord will grant you plenty of goods, in the fruit of your body, in the increase of your livestock, and in the produce of your ground, in the land of which the Lord swore to your fathers to give you.  The Lord will open to you His good treasure, the heavens, to give the rain to your land in its season, and to bless all the work of your hand. You shall lend to many nations, but you shall not borrow.  And the Lord will make you the head and not the tail; you shall be above only, and not be beneath, if you heed the commandments of the Lord your God, which I command you today, and are careful to observe them.  So you shall not turn aside from any of the words which I command you this day, to the right or the left, to go after other gods to serve them.” – Deuteronomy 28: 1-14 KJV

 

Thankful Quotes for Thanksgiving

Thank you Lord, for family.  Thank you for your peace and your presence and the gift of life. Thank you for love and joy and laughter. Thank you for all the blessings you have given us this Thanksgiving and forever.  What a mighty God we serve! He’s a Good, Good Father!

 

Thankful Quotes for Thanksgiving

  • “It is not how much we have, but how much we enjoy, that makes happiness.” – Charles Spurgeon
  • “Genuine thankfulness is an act of the heart’s affections, not an act of the lips’ muscles.” –John Piper
  • “We pray for the big things and forget to give thanks for the ordinary, small (and yet really not small) gifts.” – Dietrich Bonhoeffer
  • “Enter His gates with thanksgiving And His courts with praise Give thanks to Him, bless His name. For the LORD is good; His lovingkindness is everlasting And His faithfulness to all generations.” – Psalm 100:5
  • “Those blessings are sweetest that are won with prayer and worn with thanks.” – Thomas Goodwin
  • . “A thankful heart is one of the primary identifying characteristics of a believer. It stands in stark contrast to pride, selfishness, and worry. And it helps fortify the believer’s trust in the Lord and reliance of His provision, even in the toughest times. No matter how choppy the seas become, a believer’s heart is buoyed by constant praise and gratefulness to the Lord.” –John MacArthur
  • “Oh give thanks to the LORD, call upon His name; Make known His deeds among the peoples.” – 1 Chronicles 16:8
  • “If I do not feel a sense of joy in God’s creation, if I forget to offer the world back to God with thankfulness, I have advanced very little upon the Way. I have not yet learnt to be truly human. For it is only through thanksgiving that I can become myself.” – Kallistos Ware
  • “Give thanks to the LORD, for He is good, For His lovingkindness is everlasting. Give thanks to the God of gods, For His lovingkindness is everlasting. Give thanks to the Lord of lords, For His lovingkindness is everlasting.” – Psalm 136:1-3
  • “Joy is thankfulness, and when we are joyful, that is the best expression of thanks we can offer the Lord, Who delivers us from sorrow and sin.” – Thaddeus of Vitovnica
  • “In everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” – 1 Thessalonians 5:18
  • “A spirit of thankfulness is one of the most distinctive marks of a Christian whose heart is attuned to the Lord. Thank God in the midst of trials and every persecution.” –Billy Graham

To Stand or Not to Stand for the National Anthem

I am werary of hearing whether you should stand or kneel during the National Anthem. It is all over social media these days. Everyone has an opionion. I am sure you have read all about it too. To stand or not to stand for the National Anthem – that is the question.

So what do you think? Stand or kneel for the National Anthem?

I looked up some history on the National Anthem in the US – The Star Spangeld Banner. The National Anthem was written in 1814 by Francis Scott Key. President Herbert Hoover signed the bill that made the song the national anthem in 1931.

According to Wikipedia the custom for when people sing the National Anthem is:

Customs

 

Plaque detailing how the custom of standing during the Anthem came about in Tacoma, Washington, on October 18, 1893, in the Bostwick building

United States Code, 36 U.S.C. § 301, states that during a rendition of the national anthem, when the flag is displayed, all present except those in uniform should stand at attention facing the flag with the right hand over the heart; Members of the Armed Forces and veterans who are present and not in uniform may render the military salute; men not in uniform should remove their headdress with their right hand and hold the headdress at the left shoulder, the hand being over the heart; and individuals in uniform should give the military salute at the first note of the anthem and maintain that position until the last note; and when the flag is not displayed, all present should face toward the music and act in the same manner they would if the flag were displayed. Military law requires all vehicles on the installation to stop when the song is played and all individuals outside to stand at attention and face the direction of the music and either salute, in uniform, or place the right hand over the heart, if out of uniform. A law passed in 2008 allows military veterans to salute out of uniform, as well.  However, this statutory suggestion does not have any penalty associated with violations. 36 U.S.C. § 301

This behavioral requirement for the national anthem is subject to the same First Amendment controversies that surround the Pledge of AllegianceFor example, Jehovah’s Witnesses do not sing the national anthem, though they are taught that standing is an “ethical decision” that individual believers must make based on their “conscience.”

I am in the camp that STANDS when the National Anthem is played. I STAND during the Pledge of Allegiance too. It’s all about honoring our fallen heros for me.  It’s about taking a moment of time and saying thank you. It’s not about wheter things are hunky dorie for everyone everywhere – we know that isn’t true in this world.

The National Anthem is a time for me to honor those who have died for my freedom. There is nothing to protest in my book – they died. It’s about them and their sacrifice, not about me or my thoughts on things. To make it a protest for this or that is plain disrespectful in my book.

My husband is a Veteran. My father in law and his brother is a Veteran. My deceased grandfather is a Veteran. Even my ex-husband is a Veteran. I stand for the Veterans and fallen heros in our land.

Here are the original lyrics:

Complete version of “The Star-Spangled Banner” showing spelling and punctuation
from Francis Scott Key’s manuscript in the Maryland Historical Society collection.

O say can you see, by the dawn’s early light,
What so proudly we hail’d at the twilight’s last gleaming,
Whose broad stripes and bright stars through the perilous fight
O’er the ramparts we watch’d were so gallantly streaming?
And the rocket’s red glare, the bomb bursting in air,
Gave proof through the night that our flag was still there,
O say does that star-spangled banner yet wave
O’er the land of the free and the home of the brave?

On the shore dimly seen through the mists of the deep
Where the foe’s haughty host in dread silence reposes,
What is that which the breeze, o’er the towering steep,
As it fitfully blows, half conceals, half discloses?
Now it catches the gleam of the morning’s first beam,
In full glory reflected now shines in the stream,
‘Tis the star-spangled banner – O long may it wave
O’er the land of the free and the home of the brave!

And where is that band who so vauntingly swore,
That the havoc of war and the battle’s confusion
A home and a Country should leave us no more?
Their blood has wash’d out their foul footstep’s pollution.
No refuge could save the hireling and slave
From the terror of flight or the gloom of the grave,
And the star-spangled banner in triumph doth wave
O’er the land of the free and the home of the brave.

O thus be it ever when freemen shall stand
Between their lov’d home and the war’s desolation!
Blest with vict’ry and peace may the heav’n rescued land
Praise the power that hath made and preserv’d us a nation!
Then conquer we must, when our cause it is just,
And this be our motto – “In God is our trust,”
And the star-spangled banner in triumph shall wave
O’er the land of the free and the home of the brave.

 

Here is a great sound byte on the Issue by Michael Morris – definatly worth the listen:

Levin: NFL Kneeling Protest ‘Isn’t About Free Speech’

 

Billionaires and millionaires linking arms and taking knees in unity for what? There are brave men and women in real uniforms but you won’t find them on the football field. You’ll find them in the military and law enforcement. They’re not famous. They’re not rich. But they’re our very best. They put their lives on the line everyday. And they’re being disrespected. – Mark Levin