Our family had the pleasure of going to watch my daughter play basketball last night. The girls did great. Some of the parents in the stands were awful. I was embarrassed. Have you ever gone to a sporting event and sat by that person who continually criticized the Referee? Well, we had the misfortune to sit by 3 parents who I wanted to tell, ‘Shut up already!’ last night. Seriously. It was so bad that the Ref even shouted back to the crowd. And I am thinking to myself, ‘how are these kids ever going to learn to respect any Authority figure, much less themselves, if their parents are a Poster Child for Disrespect?
Now I know, not every Ref is perfect. But yelling and screaming at them is only going to make it worse for the team right? And talk about embarrassing a teen in front of their friends. There was more than one girl shaking her head at the antics of her over zealous dad.
Here are some words of advice from Erin Adams in her article:
“Bad” Sports Parents Ruin it for Everyone
Of the twenty million children who sign up to play sports each year, 70 percent will quit playing league sports by the age of 13 and never play again. Why? Well, according to a Michigan State University survey,of 10,000 children, grades 7 – 12, the number one reason kids play sports is to have fun, and they stop playing when it simply isn’t fun any longer.
Why do sports stop being fun for children? In many cases, it’s the well-intentioned moms and dads that take the fun out of sports for their kids. From screaming at the officials, to coaching from bench, these overzealous parents not only embarrass their children, but increase the amounts of pressure for the child to perform to unattainable heights.
So, next time you want to yell at the coach at the top of your lungs – remember your son or daughter is watching. And so are all the other parents. Do us all a favor, settle down, enjoy the game and just shut up already!
Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.
It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly.
Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].
It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail.
Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening].
Love never fails [never fades out or becomes obsolete or comes to an end].
(1 Corinthians 13:4-8a AMP)
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- Why Is Everyone Yelling?? (suburbo-types.com)
- Bringing The Best Out Of your Child! (wabombagaston.wordpress.com)
- Too Much Pressure to Perform (cforeman08.wordpress.com)
- Coaching Youth Football With A Zero Tolerance Policy (youthfootballstrategies.wordpress.com)
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10 Ways to Love from: hungryforgodsword.blogspot.com
6 thoughts on “Shut up Already”
Awesome topic and great post, Diana. I’ve often heard that, with children, more is “caught” than taught. Lord willing, I will take your advice to heart and pray that others do, also. God bless.
So true. Children learn by example… the good and the bad.
there is one ref here in Canada that was so baaaaaaad…. His life was over when what he did was posted in the YouTube. The YouTube after millions of hits was finally taken out of social media. And there are parents, too! Yikes.
Who knew a ref could go viral? Lol, thanks Seeker!
This is so true! There are a fair few tv shows that take a look into the stressful life of a child being pushed into these situations by their parents, and every time I see them I just want to scream at the parents as well.
Great article. This is a problems at youth events.