Boost Your Self Esteem by Changing Your Thoughts

How do you see yourself? Do you believe you are valuable and worthy of love?  I have been asking myself things this past month, especially after the weight gain I have had with all the medicines I am on. I found I had built my self esteem on what others told me, or what the Media said I should look like. It’s kind of a self defeating prophecy. The more you try, the worse you feel.

I think it’s the Devil’s trap myself. Yeah, ” Let’s get them to hate themselves and then they will never learn to love God, or people, or themselves. Then they will wake up every day thinking negative thoughts. Sounds like a plan…It’s taken me over 50 years to kick that Devil and his thoughts out of my head!  And I am still attacked in my thoughts. I wanted a way to change the thoughts in my head – they were not helping me. 

 Self esteem, as the Mayo Clinic describes it is:

Self-esteem is your overall opinion of yourself — how you feel about your abilities and limitations. When you have healthy self-esteem, you feel good about yourself and see yourself as deserving the respect of others. When you have low self-esteem, you put little value on your opinions and ideas.

I want to base my self esteem not on me, not on negative thoughts, not on what other people say, not what the Devil says, but on what God says about me. I had to ( and still do) rewrite the script in my head! I was putting more value on what other people said, and not enough value on what God said. I mean, I read the Bible and know these verses, but there is a big difference when you actually use it to change your thoughts.

 

These are the verses from God that have helped me to boost my self esteem and change my thoughts.

You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way. (Song of Solomon 4:7 NLT)

 

For I know the plans and thoughts that I have for you,’ says the Lord, ‘plans for peace and well-being and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. (Jeremiah 29:11 AMP)

 

For we are His workmanship [His own master work, a work of art], created in Christ Jesus [reborn from above—spiritually transformed, renewed, ready to be used] for good works, which God prepared [for us] beforehand [taking paths which He set], so that we would walk in them [living the good life which He prearranged and made ready for us]. (Ephesians 2:10 AMP)


And the Angel of the Lord  appeared to him, and said to him, “The Lord is with you, you mighty man of valor!” (Judges 6:12 NKJV)

 

But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a consecrated nation, a [special] people for God’s own possession, so that you may proclaim the excellencies [the wonderful deeds and virtues and perfections] of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light. (1 Peter 2:9) AMP)

 

Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles,
expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe
yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the
unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to
God. (1Peter 3:3-4 NLT)

 

‘Do not fear [anything], for I am with you;
Do not be afraid, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you, be assured I will help you;
I will certainly take hold of you with My righteous right hand [a hand of justice, of power, of victory, of salvation].’(Isaiah 41:10AMP)

 

For You formed my innermost parts;
You knit me [together] in my mother’s womb.
I will give thanks and praise to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
Wonderful are Your works,
And my soul knows it very well.
My frame was not hidden from You,
When I was being formed in secret,
And intricately and skillfully formed [as if embroidered with many colors] in the depths of the earth.
Your eyes have seen my unformed substance;
And in Your book were all written
The days that were appointed for me,
When as yet there was not one of them [even taking shape]. (Psalm 139:13-16AMP)

 

I still have the 3×5 index cards I wrote to myself to reprogram my thoughts. I would carry them in my purse everywhere I went. When I had a moment I would get them out and read them, especially out loud. Yeah, this was way before my iPhone! I have to share that this was the only way that helped me change my thoughts and boost my self esteem. God’s word cuts through the negative and replaces it with positive. Try it for yourself and enjoy your transformation!

How Thankfulness Changes the Atmosphere and Stops Negative Thoughts

Be thankful. Sometimes easier said then done. Yet I have found when I purpose in my heart to be thankful the atmosphere changes. My focus changes, my heart changes, and my mood changes.

I must admit the first thought in my head may not be the most positive thing. I think the Enemy knows that and when I’m not quite up yet, the self condemning thoughts try to start. I won’t repeat them, just know that they are not good.

I have found the secret to get the bad thoughts to stop – start thanking God. It doesn’t matter for what – anything.

“Thank You Lord for a new day. ”

“Thank You Lord for keeping me and my family safe.”

“Thank You Lord for your grace and mercy.”

These are just a few of my ‘go to’ thank yous. And instantly the condemning thoughts stop!

I don’t think the Enemy can live in the place of praise!

pray without ceasing, in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. Do not quench the Spirit.

1 Thessalonians 5:17-19 NKJV

Thankfulness changes the atmosphere and stops negative thoughts!

How to Overcome Negative Thoughts

Negative thoughts. Sometimes they come like waves. I had a night like that last night. I don’t know why. Maybe because I was tired. Maybe because I was under attack by spiritual forces at work – who knows. It really doesn’t matter why.   What matters when this happens is what you do about it.

I have had struggles in this area before. I used to believe every thought that came into my head. Let me tell you – that is not healthy. I acted on bad thoughts and ended up in a world of hurt.

Today is different. I have learned that every thought that comes into my head may not be something I need to ponder on. I can choose to reject some thoughts.  Some thoughts are from the enemy of our soul. Yes – the battle is for our minds.  That is why God says to renew our minds and test every thought. That is why God tells us to think on good things.

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How did I overcome those negative thoughts? I used the Word of God. I had to reaffirm what God said is greater that what I felt at the time.  Feelings are not always real. Seriously.  When I let my feelings rise above the Word I get myself in trouble. Feelings come and go. Feelings lie. The Word of God is the Truth.

Here are the things I told myself last night to overcome the wave of negative thoughts:

  • God says I am chosen and beloved
  • God says I am worthy
  • God says I am loved
  • God says He will give me life – not death
  • God says what He made is good
  • God says He will complete the work He is doing in me
  • God says He loves me and He will protect me

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I refuse to entertain negative thinking.  When I do I end up hurting myself or others. God has plans for us, plans for a future, and good things. I will retrain my mind to dwell on the good and let go of the bad.

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Letting Go of the Past and Negative Thoughts

It has been said that “as a man thinks – so he becomes.” Yes, we are what we think about. One of the hardest things for me after domestic violence and abuse is learning to renew my mind. I had to learn that just because someone said something to me, that did NOT mean that it was true.  Abusers are excellent manipulators and agents for the Enemy. They plant lie after lie in your head and after hearing something so many times, I started to believe it.


You know the Negative thoughts:

  • You are worthless
  • Nobody would ever want you
  • The kids and I would be better without you
  • You are dumb, fat, ugly, and stupid
  • You never do anything right
  • You mean nothing to me
  • Are you really that stupid?

Can you relate? 

Only reading the Word of God has helped cast down these lies. I needed a new tape, a new mindset. I needed a new truth.

 Praise God –  He is able. He is waiting to meet us and get rid of all the lies. Satan has come to kill, steal, and destroy – BUT GOD is exceedingly abundantly willing to give us a new life with new thoughts and life more abundantly. Don’t be deceived any longer my friends.


Those words spoken over you from the Enemy I cast down and turn into dust in Jesus Name!



For though we walk in the flesh [as mortal men], we are not carrying on our [spiritual] warfare according to the flesh and using the weapons of man. 

The weapons of our warfare are not physical [weapons of flesh and blood]. Our weapons are divinely powerful for the destruction of fortresses. 

We are destroying sophisticated arguments and every exalted and proud thing that sets itself up against the [true] knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought and purpose captive to the obedience of Christ, being ready to punish every act of disobedience, when your own obedience [as a church] is complete. – 2 Corinthians 10:3-6AMP



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