Miss Diana needs to vent today, please forgive me in advance, I just have to be honest with myself today about how I feel…
Is there anyone who has been to court for your ex not paying child support? Yesterday, I had the pleasure (yeah right) of going to court AGAIN. I have been divorced for over 8 years now. I have two kids still at home with me, and I was awarded full placement and custody after my ex’s pattern/arrests for Domestic Violence. My ex was court ordered to pay child support. Well, it has been like pulling teeth. I can’t tell you how many times I have been to court. I have to say I am very disillusioned with the whole process.
I thought it would only take one court appearance, my ex would get in trouble, and then he would do the right thing and pay child support. Yeah right, I must have had those rose-colored glasses on! I can’t believe a father could not want to provide for his kids. Seriously, they are both teenagers now. His pattern is to work 3 months and then quit. When we were married I moved 15 times in the 8 years. Yeah, real stable relationship there Diana.
SO, back to yesterday, yes, he was charged with contempt again (this is the 4th time I think) and ordered to pay his support every week for the next year. He has been in jail three times for contempt. Funny, after he gets arrested he magically comes up with bail money to get out. So I’m thinking, wow, that was the same order I got 8 years ago, and he still hasn’t done it. Where is the justice in that? I know I’m venting here. These are some of the things that I battle with in my everyday life. Yet I go to court every time; I’m court ordered to be there, yippee! Same nightmare, different day.Help me Lord. And Lord, help my ex do the next right thing, I don’t want to go to court again. This is stupid. And a waste of time.
The other side of the story:
On a more positive note I do want to testify about the goodness of God. The Lord has provided for me and the kids these past 8 years, and our lives are much better without all the chaos and fighting. God is faithful.He has protected us and fed us manna from heaven and given us water from the rock. Despite all the drama, I am much closer to the Lord than before. Thank you for Your promises: I have to hold onto something positive when the s&^t hits the fan…and it is flying these days…
God is good for He has protected you and taken you and your children away from the ex-cess part of your life. I’ll pray for a change of heart on your ex. Of course, as I write, you are in my prayers. God Bless you, Diana.
God is at work in his life, He is not as angry as he used to be. He even lives in the same town as I do. He sees the kids, and there are no more outbursts, thank you Jesus! God bless you too Perpetua 😉
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Amen. Thank you for that prayer. And even in the midst of the storms of life we can say, “thank you Jesus, you kept me.” 😊
Yes, we can, thank you Jesus for keeping us; and thank you Yahobahne, for the reminder.
I think your story is all too familiar. Not that I trivialize it, but it happens to people I know. They do not often come out on their feet, as you do. The answer is in your approach of giving it to God. I totally get your prayer! Amen! I am praying for you.
Yep, I agree, too many people in this boat. Just sitting in the courtroom listening to case after case was an eye opener. Thank you for your prayers Daryl, I accept, and God bless you brother.
Diana,
Thank you, my beloved sister, for sharing from your heart. Praise God – sometimes we get to share our joy from the mountaintops! But you and I, and everyone else knows that mountaintop experiences don’t last forever, and that sometimes, we must come down to the low valley experiences. David knew it, and he openly shared both his victories and his defeats, and became a man after God’s own heart.
I’ve found that when I’m in the midst of my own valley, it is then that God ministers to me more powerfully, and it is then that I am able to minister to others more powerfully. Who knows how many people you ministered to and will minister to, with just this one post alone? Praise God for you, Diana and praise Him for the prayer you prayed to Him. When I think of the other women going through the same thing that you’re going through, who are led to this very post, where you, like Job, and David, and Paul… respond by saying, “Nonetheless, I will praise the Lord,” my heart rejoices.
That yet again, seemingly pointless court visit was not in vain, my sister, and it wasn’t for your benefit, it was for the many other women who will read your testimony and see the hope you have, despite your circumstances. It was for those who will read, “On a more positive note I do want to testify about the goodness of God. The Lord has provided for me and the kids these past 8 years, and our lives are much better without all the chaos and fighting. God is faithful.He has protected us and fed us manna from heaven and given us water from the rock. Despite all the drama, I am much closer to the Lord than before. Thank you for Your promises: I have to hold onto something positive when the s&^t hits the fan…and it is flying these days…”
Much love to you, my beloved sister,
Cheryl
Thank you Cheryl, you always help me see things more clearly. I guess I never thought of it that way. Kinda lose sight of the forest when I keep focusing on the trees! You are such a blessing to me, God bless you my sister.
I loved your prayer and am praying it too ! And thank you for just being honest with us about daily stuff. It helps so much more than when we try to act like everything is FINE! God bless you and cover you and yours with daily overdoses of His love!
Thank you Debbie, I like that – overdoses of love…blessings to you too sis!
I get it, I’m with you and we’ll make it 🙂
Amen girl!