I know I am sensitive with this issue. I have been stalked. I have had people chase me with cars, on foot, on the phone, in person, and even show up outside my glass sliding door. I have had things outside destroyed. I have had nails in my driveway, cars vandalized, broken windows, etc. I have had people sneak into my apartment. I know the terror that comes with being stalked.
However, now I am finding stalking in a new arena – online. Has this happened to you? I find myself ‘hiding’ and not wanting to come online. All because someone wouldn’t be respectful. I have had ex’s stalk my Linkedin. I have had old High School people I know nothing about try to message and contact and put something on my FaceBook page everyday. And then when I deny a friend request – they ‘friend’ my brother just so they can post on my page. Did you know that ‘friends of friends’ can see everything on your FaceBook Page? I tried to change it and it went back. I am seriously thinking of deleting the whole thing.
I have had many, many people post negative things – all on my space. I get weary sometimes of monitoring all the online stuff. Yes, I have reached many – but with a cost. There are haters, there are trolls – those who hunt you down just to try to pull you under the bridge. And then there are some who will not take “NO” for an answer in this ‘instant’ age. P.S. I am not your ‘fix’. I am not your ‘drug’. I am not your ‘instant messenger’.
If you text me and I don’t answer – I am busy.
If you call me next and I don’t answer – perhaps I do not want to talk.
If you e-mail me next – I will not answer.
So why do you send another text?
And then post something on my FaceBook page? Post on your own page.
And then when I still do not answer why do you message me on FaceBook?
And then when I do not answer you instantly you start calling other people to bad mouth me – really?
Seriously? I didn’t answer. I am busy, or not available, or I DO NOT want to talk right now. I get to choose who and when I want to talk to. Please – respect my privacy. Respect my boundaries. No means No. I have choices too – it’s not always about YOU!
And the more you do it – the less I will answer.
In my opinion that is rude – and stalking. Knock it off!
Diana Rasmussen is a Faith Builder, Worship Leader, Veteran's wife, and Customer Service Rep. At her blog Prayers and Promises she shares from her heart on how to find hope in this crazy world!