Why Doesn’t She Just Leave?

It has been brought up again and again, “Why doesn’t she just leave him?”  I wish there was an easy answer.  But it is different for each person.  That is why it is IMPERATIVE, in my opinion, that a victim seek professional help.  The Police get involved for a reason. There are counselors in place at every domestic violence shelter that I have ever been to.  There are professional counselors that will help lead a person out of bondage.  Even our regular MD Doctors ask us every visit, ” Do you feel safe at home?”  There are Pastors that can help someone get the help they need. I had to tell someone, anyone, what was going on. BREAKING THE SILENCE was  step one for me to get out alive.  I didn’t have to dump everything, I just had to say something…

Ok, you asked. Here are the statistics along with my source.

We don’t leave right away because we fear for our lives.
We have been told again and again that if we do we will be killed,
and so will our children…and many die trying.
Terrorism – in your own house, that’s what it’s like….
and here is a .pdf with

50 OBSTACLES TO LEAVING a.k.a. WHY ABUSE VICTIMS STAY

From: joannewellington.wordpress.com
From: joannewellington.wordpress.com

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE STATISTICS

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One out of every three women will be abused at some point in her life.
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Battering is the single major cause of injury to women, exceeding rapes, muggings and auto accidents combined.
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A woman is more likely to be killed by a male partner (or former partner) than any other person.
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About 4,000 women die each year due to domestic violence.
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 Of the total domestic violence homicides, about 75% of the victims were killed as they attempted to leave the relationship or after the relationship had ended.
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Seventy-three percent of male abusers were abused as children.
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Thirty percent of Americans say they know a woman who has been physically abused by her husband in the past year.
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Women of all races are equally vulnerable to violence by an intimate partner.
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On average, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or partners in this country every day.
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Intimate partner violence a crime that largely affects women. In 1999, women accounted for 85% of the victims of intimate partner violence.
*On average, a woman will leave an abusive relationship seven times before she leaves for good.
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Approximately 75% of women who are killed by their batterers are murdered when they attempt to leave or after they have left an abusive relationship.
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Yep, IT’S LIKE TERRORISM.  so why do people blame the victim?

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